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I'm not sexually attractive to women, i.e. my genes aren't desirable for reproduction. I have to accept this fact. Any other guys here accepted that they are the losers in natural selection?
I'm not sexually attractive to women, i.e. my genes aren't desirable for reproduction. I have to accept this fact. Any other guys here accepted that they are the losers in natural selection?
There are scads of 24-year-old guys in your shoes. Did you think you were the only one? Stop feeling sorry for yourself, and go out there and meet women. Join activity groups of various sorts, mix, mingle. Give women a chance to get to know you. Most of the guys your age without gf's are either shy or have been too busy working and studying in school to have time for women. Those circumstances can change for the better.
nature hasn't selected you to never produce, you are obviously still capable of all the emotions and physical capabilities needed to reproduce. the only thing stopping you from moving forward is your attitude and most likely your standard of women you "think" you are suppose to have.
find yourself before you attempt to find others
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I've never had a girlfriend and I'm 24. Is this nature's way of telling me I'...
You are only a loser if you accept that you are a loser. Believe it or not, aesthetics aren't the end all be all of relationships. If that were the case, the worlds population wouldn't be as significant as it is.
You need to instill some confidence in yourself. Go to a gym. Join a social group. Volunteer. Put yourself out there. One of the biggest things women are attracted to is confidence.
Could it be possible that you are only looking at one type of woman and subconsciously ignoring others? I ask this because in another thread I am arguing a bit with you that not all women are attracted to bad boys. Maybe your lack of success stems from only going after (and only seeing) women who go for bad boys when you, yourself aren't a "bad boy" (so you aren't their type). And while being fixated on that type of woman, you ignore all the others (again, subconsciously).
You are young. Forget women for now, work on yourself and your confidence. Do something, have a goal and work towards it. That will help build your character and confidence (and make you more attractive). And when you start feeling that way, look around for women... but not the damaged kind that only seek "bad boys."
One other piece of advice. Sometimes some men try too hard... and basically over do "being nice." That doesn't mean "be bad" though (that's the other extreme). Be kind, be a gentleman, but also be sure you have a backbone and don't take abuse from people. It's not that women don't like "nice guys" it's that so many self proclaimed "nice guys" aren't really "nice" so much as wishy washy. Here's a good article on the difference between being "nice" and "kind" : Marcia Sirota: The Difference Between Being Nice and Being Kind
But really, work on "growing yourself" first. Don't give up hope. Women will come later. Good luck.
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