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When you get to the mall don't you have stores of your own that you like? This is how my SO & I finally solved the problem. While I shop for things like nail polish he would spend time at the electronics store/computer store etc then we call each other & meet somewhere when we are done.
I would think most married folks are going to have some separate interests. I can think of a couple of interests my husband has, that I don't care for at all. I think what is dangerous to the relationship, is if either of you allow the interest to come between you. You have to find a point of compromise that you can both live with. It looks like a big red flag in the well-being of your marriage if your wife's interest is that upsetting to you.
My girlfriend doesn't like bourbon. I don't like shopping. When she goes shopping with her friends, they often drop their SO's off at my house (she calls it a playdate) and we light a bonfire and drink bourbon. It works so well because everyone is happy, yet she doesn't want to do it too much or else the back yard would be reduced to ash, her wooden flower baskets would be turned into firewood, and I would be 300 lbs from all of the grilled sausages that inevitably occur when the bourbon comes out. It is a sort of negative feedback that results in a stable equilibrium.
Why did you choose to marry a woman with a habit that annoys you so much?
Why do you go with her?
Is it possible that this did not used to be so triggering for you? If so, that means what you are really upset about has nothing to do with shopping, or nature.
I am like you; I don't like to shop and mostly buy stuff online. But I don't go shopping with people if I don't want to.
I love going shopping its the only time I can hold her purse and control the cash.
My husband "follows" me on our debit account when I go shopping. He knows where I've been and how much I've spent. When I get home he says "so what did we buy today?" LOL
Yes, but I'm a girl. I hate shopping or looking at things "just because." Spending money actually makes me sick to my stomach. I do the same thing while grocery shopping, I give myself a time limit and try and spend the least amount of time in there. I also walk as fast as possible and I think making it into a contest alleviates the fact I have to shop, if not a little. I also like to shop early in the morning or late at night to avoid people being in the way so I can't race through as easily, haha!
I don't like to shop with people who are "shoppers." I actually get a weird allergic reaction while shopping with my mom, she likes to shop. I feel like I'm going to pass out, or I need to lay down and fall asleep when I first walk in.
I know I'm not a typical woman. I hate "stuff." The older I get the less I want and I want everything to be simple and uncluttered, or to serve a purpose.
I also love nature and being outside. In fact I get depressed if I don't get to go on my nightly "sunset" walk every evening. That is the most perfect moment of the day!
Me too! I'm a girl too and I never meet too many other females like me. I get the sick thing with shoes a lot. I just cannot bring myself to buy shoes. I married a man who is a shopper and loves shoes. He was really bad with shopping and spending when we first got married but thankfully he's pulled back as we get a bit older. I'm someone who is frugal and can work with what I have. For example, my desk chair cost $60 and I accumulated it before we got married. His is well over $100, it's his 2nd since we've been married, and he wants to replace it again with another that is over $100. It is worn out some, granted, but for some reason he just goes through things where as I can just make things last. When something is broken or maybe requires some effort, he just prefers to buy a new one, where as I prefer to try to fix it or make it work.
I used to cringe when he'd spot a Best Buy. One afternoon we had to go to every shoe store in the mall. I too hate dealing with people. If I have to shop for clothes (because all mine have holes LOL) I try to go in off-times. Saturday afternoon shopping is the WORST.
I too hate "things" and clutter. If I have things, they usually have meaning, are gifts from someone special, etc. I don't have something that is just a knick knack that is there to just take up space. If something is on a shelf, it has a meaning or a reason.
OP - I love outdoors too. I get depressed if I can't regular hike, bike, etc. But I do relate. Luckily my husband doesn't have a lot of time to shop anymore and he doesn't really LIKE to do it a lot. But I guess people have their hobbies and people like different things. It's hard to relate to someone with a hobby like that though, I can understand.
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That is the most perfect moment of the day!
