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About 33 is just right- and of course the woman must be exactly 10 years younger- By the time your kids are grown you will be pushing 60...and by the time you are 50 your wife will not be menopausal and you can still get sex...she will only be 40 and that is sexy.
That's how it works around here, and if you don't, you're screwed, and not in a good way.
I wonder if this is common in small town/poor/religious communities? Over in my neck of the woods it's nearly the same. If you don't have kids after 25 there seems to be an aura of shame people place on you if you let them.
I've only heard of more progressive cities where people wait until the 30s to start families, since your 20s are spent getting an education and getting to know yourself and having fun before buckling down to all that responsibility. Supposed to make the ease of settling down to raising a family much more satisfactory (in theory mind you)... I was raised on this alone and was dumbfounded when everything was happening the opposite.
Who wants to be a single/divorced parent in your late 20s+? I'm starting to see some of the young love birds split up and already seeking the next "true love" and it's a pain to date when they've seem to have more life experience because they rushed things too early.
About 33 is just right- and of course the woman must be exactly 10 years younger- By the time your kids are grown you will be pushing 60...and by the time you are 50 your wife will not be menopausal and you can still get sex...she will only be 40 and that is sexy.
Wow I see you have given this much thought! Guys have the big advantage in this department because you don't have the ticking biological clock...my son is 26 and has no interest in settling down...on the other hand his girlfriend is 28 and wants marriage and kids like tomorrow...she is barking up the wrong tree with him...
That's how it works around here, and if you don't, you're screwed, and not in a good way.
That's pretty much how it worked where I grew up. I went back for my 10 year High School reunion last summer and I think I was one of maybe 5 people who weren't married/divorced and had kids. Granted, we're all pushing 30, but most of them had kindergarten through jr. high aged kids...they actually had a separate 'reunion' the day after in the park because there were so many large families and kids involved. I wasn't invited to that one
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I wonder if this is common in small town/poor/religious communities? Over in my neck of the woods it's nearly the same. If you don't have kids after 25 there seems to be an aura of shame people place on you if you let them.
I've only heard of more progressive cities where people wait until the 30s to start families, since your 20s are spent getting an education and getting to know yourself and having fun before buckling down to all that responsibility. Supposed to make the ease of settling down to raising a family much more satisfactory (in theory mind you)... I was raised on this alone and was dumbfounded when everything was happening the opposite.
Who wants to be a single/divorced parent in your late 20s+? I'm starting to see some of the young love birds split up and already seeking the next "true love" and it's a pain to date when they've seem to have more life experience because they rushed things too early.
I lived in Hardin County, Kentucky which is a rural and military community for one year when in my early 20s. I might have been one of maybe 5 or 6 people there who was in my 20s who wasn't either married, divorced, or had a child. Then I moved to Louisville and totally by accident got involved in the Southern Baptist/hardcore Christian crowd there. I may have been the only one in church some days who was single. After two years in Kentucky, I hauled a*# to DC where I feel totally comfortable being a bachelor. Also I stopped practicing organized religion since it seems to not be a place where I can feel comfortable as a single childfree guy.
I wonder if this is common in small town/poor/religious communities? Over in my neck of the woods it's nearly the same. If you don't have kids after 25 there seems to be an aura of shame people place on you if you let them.
I've only heard of more progressive cities where people wait until the 30s to start families, since your 20s are spent getting an education and getting to know yourself and having fun before buckling down to all that responsibility. Supposed to make the ease of settling down to raising a family much more satisfactory (in theory mind you)... I was raised on this alone and was dumbfounded when everything was happening the opposite.
Who wants to be a single/divorced parent in your late 20s+? I'm starting to see some of the young love birds split up and already seeking the next "true love" and it's a pain to date when they've seem to have more life experience because they rushed things too early.
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I lived in Hardin County, Kentucky which is a rural and military community for one year when in my early 20s. I might have been one of maybe 5 or 6 people there who was in my 20s who wasn't either married, divorced, or had a child. Then I moved to Louisville and totally by accident got involved in the Southern Baptist/hardcore Christian crowd there. I may have been the only one in church some days who was single. After two years in Kentucky, I hauled a*# to DC where I feel totally comfortable being a bachelor. Also I stopped practicing organized religion since it seems to not be a place where I can feel comfortable as a single childfree guy.
Among my friends, I was one of the first to get married and I was 28! I had my first child at 35 and most of my friends started around the same time.
if you meet the right person, you both feel the same way about each other, and youre both financially stable you should probably commit to her within a few years. i dont think the age matters, but the older you get the slimmer pickings there are
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! Guys have the big advantage in this department because you don't have the ticking biological clock...my son is 26 and has no interest in settling down...on the other hand his girlfriend is 28 and wants marriage and kids like tomorrow...she is barking up the wrong tree with him...
