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If I was getting regular sex I would never walk away from a marriage, its the women who suddenly become "unhappy" and walk away and THEN take their husbands to the cleaners that I take issue with.
I agree if the two just respect each other a marriage should work but when they don't respect each other it doesn't work. She's not the one who wants out, he does. Of course he not getting sex but he doesn't want it from her, and he is very mean to her so she does want it from him.
I think there is a post upthread where we learn that he is the one whodoes not want sex, because she is a size 10-12.
I know he's not attracted to her. He's made many comments about her weight. She's not huge by any means and he's not really fit. he does not want to have sex with her. She didn't want it either until he told her he wanted a divorce them she was trying anything. I guess it's giving her some more time. Idk
What about the time from born to 13 year old? Those 13 years she was tending them, and the husband, and the household?
Yes, the kids NOW can go home alone, and stay by themselves - but they didn't when they were younger.
Also this all turned to be an attack against the woman, and we do not know her story.
All what we know is what her husband told OP. And he told her only that what he wanted to tell her...
What I read in this thread is about the poor husband, deprived of sex ATM machine.
What about the woman? Maybe she was a maid and a slave, cheated on, yelled on, and humiliated? Maybe HE is the sole reason why she don't want sex anymore.
Like I said - we only know one side of the story...
I said: "Not saying that she never pulled her "weight" at home when her/their kids were younger."
Stories really need both sides as I mentioned in another thread.
We can only read one side of it, so people are going to go by what they read at face value though as we know of a good possibility of not being 100% accurate.
Who knows what went on here as in like the 1,000's of future threads from a woman or man.
He came right out and said the counseling would be a waste of $$ as my gf was trying to encourage them to go. It's crazy. The wife is thinking everything sliding back to normal. I just don't get it.
If she is willing to accept the fact that he will tell her she is too fat to have sex with, then that has become her 'normal'.
Lots of women subconsciously choose not to lose the weight because then there will be no buffer. The weight becomes the reason not to deal with the real reasons. If he won't go to counseling, she should go and get some self-esteem.
My ex was miserable and making us miserable but hell would freeze over before he would leave, because then he would have to admit to his parents that he failed. I think a lot of men stay because they don't want to admit that. I had to put his stuff out on the porch.
I have a friend whose hubby told her it was because of her weight. She is average shape, not fat. It devastated her self esteem. A year later, it turned out he had been having an affair the whole time. She has had no trouble at all getting dates since the divorce. Men want her body! She now has a new steady guy.
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