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Old 04-14-2010, 09:21 PM
 
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I am really concerned about my friend. She and I have been friends for years. She lives a busy life and so do I so we often time play phone tag.

I thought I'd give her a call tonight and I got her voice mail...no problems there.

Well about 10 minutes later.....her "boyfriend" calls and says: Why do you keep calling her? I sat here with her a year ago and she told you to stop calling".

That scenario DID NOT occur. The guy put my friend on the phone and I said "what's going on? Why are you involved with a guy like that and told her to give me a call when she get's to work tomorrow".

She said okay and quietly stated she does not want the argument from "him" and hung up.

I am 100% sure she'll call me tomorrow when she's at work.

I am assuming for the sake of keeping the peace she told him that we were no longer friends.

I don't like the "smell" of this. I hate when women get involved with INSECURE men. It can end up dangerous.


What are your thoughts?
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Old 04-14-2010, 09:24 PM
 
Location: 39 20' 59"N / 75 30' 53"W
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I wouldn't return one more call, you don't need this.
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Old 04-14-2010, 09:27 PM
 
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Why not just ask her what that was all about when she calls?
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Old 04-14-2010, 09:34 PM
 
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Why not just ask her what that was all about when she calls?
That's what I am going to do tomorrow.
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Old 04-14-2010, 09:37 PM
 
Location: So Cal
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Did you guys ever do the horizontal mambo, the beast with two backs, 20 toes.......

Cause if you did... maybe he's feeling insecure about that????
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Old 04-14-2010, 09:38 PM
 
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That's what I am going to do tomorrow.
He's insecure and wants you to go away and she hides the friendship for fear of the fall out. What other reason would there be?
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Old 04-14-2010, 09:39 PM
 
Location: Pennsylvania
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Wow, good luck. This just does not sound good. I'm thinking she used your name to cover up something. Maybe she pretended you were stalking her so she didn't have to argue about wanting male friends. Try to encourage her to stand up for herself. OTOH, if she 's seeing another dude and used your name.... That's a mess of problems I'd sidestep!
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Old 04-14-2010, 09:40 PM
 
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Did you guys ever do the horizontal mambo, the beast with two backs, 20 toes.......

Cause if you did... maybe he's feeling insecure about that????
Chow..we never had any sort of intimate relationship. We're just really good friends.
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Old 04-14-2010, 09:43 PM
 
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Wow, good luck. This just does not sound good. I'm thinking she used your name to cover up something. Maybe she pretended you were stalking her so she didn't have to argue about wanting male friends. Try to encourage her to stand up for herself. OTOH, if she 's seeing another dude and used your name.... That's a mess of problems I'd sidestep!
Well, I will say.I know her enough to know she IS IN fact trying to hide our friendship to prevent arguments from him...I am not 100% sure but I am pretty confident.

Guys can be real Bit*hes!
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Old 04-14-2010, 09:50 PM
 
Location: 39 20' 59"N / 75 30' 53"W
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Well, I will say.I know her enough to know she IS IN fact trying to hide our friendship to prevent arguments from him...I am not 100% sure but I am pretty confident.

Guys can be real Bit*hes!
I don't think I've ever seen a man admit this on CD.
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