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What have you witnessed, experienced, been lead to believe that makes you think all women are out to be possessive and not allow their men some space?
I don't know anyone like that. Every women I know is working full time, doing happy hours with coworkers, playing on sports leagues without their SO's, going out on girls nights, going to school, living on their own, the list goes on. Idk where they would find the time to be up their SO's ass constantly.
None of the female friends I have live with their boyfriends and none of them have intentions of marriage or moving in, because they enjoy living with female friends or solo at this point in their life.
How much more space can someone need than that?
Good point. The women I know who are single and own their own homes don't want to co-habit. They want to maintain their own independent space. It's the guys who try to pressure or manipulate them into letting them move in.
I think one of the main reasons for the extremely high rate of divorce and breakups is that women cannot accept that men need their space. There's this silly idea that, if men need time apart from their SO's, then something must be wrong. It's not true.
Men need men time. We need to hang out alone and we need to hang out with other men. In our society that's just such an unpopular notion. Everything has to be mixed gender now. Back in the olden days, back when the divorce rate was almost non-existent, you had clubs just for men, places they could go and hang out, have a cocktail and a smoke. Even in the workplace you had many fewer women. When groups of people got together for a dinner they would eat and then the men would go to their area to hang out and the women had theirs.
And what did this result in? Longer lasting, healthier marriages. And the statistics are there to prove me right.
We need this time apart to decompress and not have a woman up in our business. And the men who have women up in they bidness everyday all day eventually grow to despise them. I've seen it happen many times.
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One of the main reasons my marriage works as well as it does, is due to the fact that my wife and I recognize the differences in each other's makeup, therefore, we have no problem giving the other space
I have my 'man cave' in our large basement...it's full of my books, records, dvd's, vhs tapes, etc...her 'girl space' is on the other side of the basement...
She enjoys her time out with her many (married and single) lady friends...no cackling going on there, just women interacting and having a good time together...I am a voracious reader, so I spend lots of time at the library and local bookstores and thrift shops...I have my 'time with the fellas' when we go to ballgames, or watch games at each other's homes, or at a nearby sports bar
In all the time we've bben together (going on 10 yrs now) not ONCE has there been any issue of EITHER of us not getting the space and 'alone time' we both sometimes need---which makes our time TOGETHER that much better
I mean, really, all this junk about 'someone in your bidness' is kinda on you to remedy, don't you think?
One of the main reasons my marriage works as well as it does, is due to the fact that my wife and I recognize the differences in each other's makeup, therefore, we have no problem giving the other space
I have my 'man cave' in our large basement...it's full of my books, records, dvd's, vhs tapes, etc...her 'girl space' is on the other side of the basement...
She enjoys her time out with her many (married and single) lady friends...no cackling going on there, just women interacting and having a good time together...I am a voracious reader, so I spend lots of time at the library and local bookstores and thrift shops...I have my 'time with the fellas' when we go to ballgames, or watch games at each other's homes, or at a nearby sports bar
In all the time we've bben together (going on 10 yrs now) not ONCE has there been any issue of EITHER of us not getting the space and 'alone time' we both sometimes need---which makes our time TOGETHER that much better
I mean, really, all this junk about 'someone in your bidness' is kinda on you to remedy, don't you think?
Bingo my friend, that's the way mature marriages work
Everybody gets their space, and we know both men and women need it, and nobody is made to feel guilty about getting what they need
Both of us are introverted and like some quiet time alone, but he and I are best friends and like to spend most of our free time together. Sometimes we spend our non-free time together too; we've worked at the same place twice.
I think one of the main reasons for the extremely high rate of divorce and breakups is that women cannot accept that men need their space. There's this silly idea that, if men need time apart from their SO's, then something must be wrong. It's not true.
Men need men time. We need to hang out alone and we need to hang out with other men. In our society that's just such an unpopular notion. Everything has to be mixed gender now. Back in the olden days, back when the divorce rate was almost non-existent, you had clubs just for men, places they could go and hang out, have a cocktail and a smoke. Even in the workplace you had many fewer women. When groups of people got together for a dinner they would eat and then the men would go to their area to hang out and the women had theirs.
And what did this result in? Longer lasting, healthier marriages. And the statistics are there to prove me right.
We need this time apart to decompress and not have a woman up in our business. And the men who have women up in they bidness everyday all day eventually grow to despise them. I've seen it happen many times.
Lol!!! I'm a woman...and I have YET to meet a man that gives me the space I truly need. My BF is better than most, but even he just wants more together time than I can give.
Good point. The women I know who are single and own their own homes don't want to co-habit. They want to maintain their own independent space. It's the guys who try to pressure or manipulate them into letting them move in.
Both of us are introverted and like some quiet time alone, but he and I are best friends and like to spend most of our free time together. Sometimes we spend our non-free time together too; we've worked at the same place twice.
We like one another. Alert the media.
There is the best friends aspect, too.
Relationships where you truly are each others' best friend tend to veer more in the "spend more time together" direction vs. relationships that don't have that same dynamic.
Lol!!! I'm a woman...and I have YET to meet a man that gives me the space I truly need. My BF is better than most, but even he just wants more together time than I can give.
How much space is that?
I need my space too, but some of you make it sound like you need 5 days alone a week!
Not a criticism. Just curious.
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' is kinda on you to remedy, don't you think?
My BF is better than most, but even he just wants more together time than I can give.
