Mutual attraction/good chemistry or is he just being nice? (date, boyfriend)

[highluhv]

just kindness?
I have a crush on this guy I work with. The minute we met we clicked instantly. We would often get into healthy debates and we also appreciated each others differences/outlooks on life. To make a very long story short, we both transferred out of old department due to growing tired of working third shift and went on to something new. Fast forward two years, add unspoken attraction to the mix and also a lack of communication, we are working together again and my feelings for him hasn't changed. Whenever we encounter each other in a hallway or during a meeting it's an intense vibe. I get really hot and blush uncontrollably. When I reflect on the past I finally realized that he would show signs that he liked me. At the time I was dealing w/ my boyfriend who was a liar and manipulator. We'd talk a lot, joke a lot, share personal stories and work really well as a team. I didnt realize it back then, but now that I think about it he may have been attracted to me. He sent one of his close work buddies to ask me if I'd ever date him, do I deal with racism (I'm black and Hispanic) etc. He would come into work and randomly tell me how proud he is of me and all of my accomplishments. Anyway. What should I do?

He's quite shy and quiet now and so am I, however I began breaking the silence by asking him questions and he reveals how he feels through his body language. Am I misinterpreting his friendliness? He has a habit of coming extremely close, I mean extremely close, shoulder to shoulder without saying a word. And I also caught him staring at me then looking away.

He also keeps things real cool in public when people are around. We don't speak or acknowledge each other as much in public, but if we are working alone or see eachother in the hallway, sparks go off. What should I do?

[ellie]

Ask him out.

[stepka]

This sounds like he really likes you so encourage him. Flirt with him a little. Even ask him out if you dare. If you don't dare, ask him out anyway but make it a friend thing like a walk in the park or museum or something that you have talked about before. I know folks say not to date people at work but I know many happily married couples who've met that way and the main thing is to make sure it really is someone you know you connect with, not someone for casual flings and gameplaying. And go slowly. Anyway, no it doesn't sound like you're misinterpreting this. Keep us posted.

[NilaJones]

I think it sounds like he likes you .

You can just ask him if he does. Make sure you phrase it in a way that lets him know it's ok to say no, and that you will still be his friend.

[highluhv]

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