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Providing he/she is STD free, does a partner's sexual past influence your decision to stay or break up a relationship?
I'm only bringing this up because there are a few sexual experiences that would definitely make me think twice before committing long-term to a person.
For example the thread about a guy finding out about his girl having multiple encounters with groups of males at once would probably make me end a relationship. Same if she was a previous escort or if she slept with a lot partners before me(i'm talking more than 20+).
What do you think? Any sexual past deal breakers for you? And if that person was uncomfortable talking about it and you found out later, would you still end it?
I would hope if I was with someone new that they had a past sexual history that was not really notable, meaning fairly normal. I would not want to be with someone that was bisexual, a swinger, or someone that had been with like 100 women, or someone that had been in porn movies.
Here's the thing. There's one common notion that a small number of women with low self-esteem happen to have sex because they feel good when their partner feels good and they have some (unconscious) feeling that tells them to constantly have sex with various men if needed, only to have that feeling of self-worth through sex.
I know this is going to come as a shock to some. But some (maybe many! really!) women have sex because it feels good and is fun. Well when done with someone who does it right and has a good attitude.
I know this is going to come as a shock to some. But some (maybe many! really!) women have sex because it feels good and is fun. Well when done with someone who does it right and has a good attitude.
Nice try but that's not the point of my post. You literally have women who usually some serious vice in their lives (drug, alcohol, etc) and they happen to use sex as a method of making themselves feel valued. They aren't discriminating much either and they expose themselves to various diseases and it turns into an addiction. They'll also join orgies with 5 or more men in one night for those same reasons, having sex with various men on almost daily basis, even during their period when they feel very uncomfortable - but the feeling of "need" to be valued makes them into sex addicts. Sex addiction is more than addiction to orgasm for most addicts, I'm talking about a classical profile of sex addict, not someone who's enjoying sex with someone they want.
As off-topic as it might sound.
Knowing a persons past is very important. It is the best predictor of what their future behavior will be. You might like to know if your present girl friend was married several times before and all of them died under mysterious circumstances. You might like to know if the guy your dating has done time for domestic violence. Its quite foolish to continue a relationship with someone or make commitments or get married without knowing their family, to a certain degree, and their past. Do you really want to marry someone whose had several bankruptcies in their past? If you're dating someone who has been known to cheat on several of his past girlfriends, it would be helpful to know that is this person might well do that again.
Nice try but that's not the point of my post. You literally have women who usually some serious vice in their lives (drug, alcohol, etc) and they happen to use sex as a method of making themselves feel valued. They aren't discriminating much either and they expose themselves to various diseases and it turns into an addiction. They'll also join orgies with 5 or more men in one night for those same reasons, having sex with various men on almost daily basis, even during their period when they feel very uncomfortable - but the feeling of "need" to be valued makes them into sex addicts. Sex addiction is more than addiction to orgasm for most addicts, I'm talking about a classical profile of sex addict, not someone who's enjoying sex with someone they want.
As off-topic as it might sound.
Sure. But aren't most people with sexual addiction problems men?
I'll ignore NillaJones' comment because I've interpreted it as something personal posted towards me.
No, I really could not understand the post of yours that I asked about.
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Oh, and stop using the word "creepy" when you want to disqualify someone. It makes you look like a tool.
'Creepy' refers to someone who violates another person's social boundaries in a way that makes their skin crawl. Usually, but not always, in some topic to do with sex.
The word was used appropriately, to refer to your straw-man leap from a discussion of past romantic partners to prostitution. You tried to pretend that a woman who has no STDs but enjoys sex and has multiple previous partners must be a prostitute. Speaking of things that make a person 'look like a tool'.
If you enjoy the sex you're getting from your significant other, your only concern about her past should be to write a "thank you" note to all her previous lovers. People don't get good at sex by reading about it.
Well good luck many men have ventured into that territory more then once(prostitution). If they say they haven't they are probable lying. Unless your into the college boys and younger many men have found solace there.
I am in my 50s and have never met a man who has been with a prostitute. And No...not into college boys
"STD-free"? That's a novel concept. "STD, asymptomatic" is probably more to the point.
Many partners - it mattered when i was younger: the more the better. Now, it's a yawner. Who am I to make it a sticking point?
Oh, sex is fun.
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