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I'm in a dilemma. I moved to a smallish town and jobs are definitely not a plenty. I'm a nurse and only two small hospitals in town and only hiring for part time. I work in a clinic for only one month and half and in that time our Doctor got fired and new management company came in and questioning all of us employees and what we do and making comments that I cost more than the other nurse that works with me. But the job I came from replaced me with two part timers. I have applied to places around this small town area with no job hits. But amazingly I hear from hospitals all over the country who are ready to give me a job. I am the main breadwinner in our family as my spouse works part time job at hospital. I know he is from here and we just bought a house almost two years ago and his family is here but the work situation has changed. None of my extended family is here but he doesn't want to move by them or anywhere. I don't know if I'm going to have a job tomorrow or not..not with business being bad and new management in there. We won't have this house anyways if I don't work. How do I handle this with reluctant spouse? Although I did tell him when I dated him that I don't see myself here long term and was wanting to move but it was all good when dating. We have two small children and have to provide for them. But there are no job opportunities or career advancement here in this small town that I definitely don't like. What do I do?
Have you even looked into working from home???There are lots of wfh jobs that as a nurse you could do.You could work full-time,stay in the home and town you're in and no one would have to move period.You need to open up your horizon in the job world.Screw brick and mortar jobs and start looking at working from home.
You're the main breadwinner with the main responsibility for paying the bills and feeding your family. So, you're The Decider. I don't understand why your husband isn't facing reality. Maybe he's hoping everything will work out ok at your current workplace, but waiting until you're fired and the family is in crisis isn't the way to go.
Whose name is on the mortgage and the deed to the house? How free would you be to move with the kids, set up a home in the new location, and wait for him to join you, if he chose to dig in his heels and stay? (Which would be very childish.)
You're the main breadwinner with the main responsibility for paying the bills and feeding your family. So, you're The Decider. I don't understand why your husband isn't facing reality. Maybe he's hoping everything will work out ok at your current workplace, but waiting until you're fired and the family is in crisis isn't the way to go.
Whose name is on the mortgage and the deed to the house? How free would you be to move with the kids, set up a home in the new location, and wait for him to join you, if he chose to dig in his heels and stay? (Which would be very childish.)
I don't agree with this at all. The DECIDER is the two of them discussing it and figuring out a solution. That's how marriage works. And, this statement sounds like you're saying the primary earner should have more pull in decisions made. I'm sure most SAHMs/SAHPs would disagree.
I don't agree with this at all. The DECIDER is the two of them discussing it and figuring out a solution. That's how marriage works. And, this statement sounds like you're saying the primary earner should have more pull in decisions made. I'm sure most SAHMs/SAHPs would disagree.
Well, you cant live on rainbows and butterflies. She's already stated if she doesnt get a full time job they will lose the house.
If she's the main breadwinner, she has to go where she can work, even if it means leaving where they are now. The reality is, she can't make a living there. She has to move. She knows she can get a full time job in a lot of places. Hubby needs to man up, and do whats best for his family. Not what he wants to do.
I don't agree with this at all. The DECIDER is the two of them discussing it and figuring out a solution. That's how marriage works. And, this statement sounds like you're saying the primary earner should have more pull in decisions made. I'm sure most SAHMs/SAHPs would disagree.
Not always if one of the partners is adamant and intractable. Some spouses may disagree with the primary earner but at the end of the day, the rent or mortgage has to be paid, same with the utilities and the last time I checked, most people appreciate being able to eat on a regular basis and even wear clothes. Imagine that!
Well, you cant live on rainbows and butterflies. She's already stated if she doesnt get a full time job they will lose the house.
If she's the main breadwinner, she has to go where she can work, even if it means leaving where they are now. The reality is, she can't make a living there. She has to move. She knows she can get a full time job in a lot of places. Hubby needs to man up, and do whats best for his family. Not what he wants to do.
I'm talking about living on doggon rainbows and butterflies. I'm talking about marriage; two people sitting down together and figuring out a solution to a problem. There is no decider in a functional marriage, outside of people addressing matters together and figuring them out. The answer is not to say , "My money, my rules". How can possibly you argue for the position that the primary earner in a marriage is the DECIDER?
Not always if one of the partners is adamant and intractable. Some spouses may disagree with the primary earner but at the end of the day, the rent or mortgage has to be paid, same with the utilities and the last time I checked, most people appreciate being able to eat on a regular basis and even wear clothes. Imagine that!
I guess each person can dig in their heels, put their respective foots down, and refuse to compromise. But, that would be a great example what NOT to do in a marriage that one wants to be successful.
I guess each person can dig in their heels, put their respective foots down, and refuse to compromise. But, that would be a great example what NOT to do in a marriage that one wants to be successful.
Or both could. It happens!
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