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So I went to stay with a friend for an extended weekend and I met his new lover. The new boyfriend seems nice enough, kind of shy, much too young amd a general cutie. Anywho my friend who has a STD has yet to tell the new guy but he confesed to me that they are having unprotected sex.
I of course immediately chastised him for this and told him to tell this 19yo guy that je claims to love that he is infected and now the young pup might be too. I was so upset about it I almost told the kid myself.
Now I'm back home and just dont know if I did enough.
Sure we are all responible for our own actions and both my friend and his bf should insist on condoms. But I feel strongly for this young kid who is in his first relationship first bf first love first time shacking up with someone. He is trusting completely and his trust is being abused.
I feel lik punching my friend in the face.
You could certainly bring it up to your friend. She knowingly has a condition that will affect another and is not only hiding it but putting him at risk. An ugly situation awaits sooner or later when he finds out.
Tough position to be in. I would certainly question why I'm friensd with the dude who is having unprotected sex knowing full well he has a STD. Not the type of person I would want to hang around with.
Unfortunately, I don't think it's your place to interfere unless it's a deadly consequence (HIV).
That's the thing, IT IS. If it was something non-chronic I would still advise him to come clean but at least their wouldn't be premanent damage, but this is something that could mess up the kid... for life.
Sigh, and I do question why I'm friends with him... now more than ever.
That's the thing, IT IS. If it was something non-chronic I would still advise him to come clean but at least their wouldn't be premanent damage, but this is something that could mess up the kid... for life.
Sigh, and I do question why I'm friends with him... now more than ever.
Then you're morally obligated to tell. Can you imagine carrying that around for the rest of your life?
BTW, your friend can be prosecuted for knowingly spreading HIV (if I am to understand that's what he has).
So I went to stay with a friend for an extended weekend and I met his new lover. The new boyfriend seems nice enough, kind of shy, much too young amd a general cutie. Anywho my friend who has a STD has yet to tell the new guy but he confesed to me that they are having unprotected sex.
I of course immediately chastised him for this and told him to tell this 19yo guy that je claims to love that he is infected and now the young pup might be too. I was so upset about it I almost told the kid myself.
Now I'm back home and just dont know if I did enough.
Sure we are all responible for our own actions and both my friend and his bf should insist on condoms. But I feel strongly for this young kid who is in his first relationship first bf first love first time shacking up with someone. He is trusting completely and his trust is being abused.
I feel lik punching my friend in the face.
Thoughts?
If it were me, I'd have to let this friend go.
He just doesn't have the kind of character and ethics of someone I want in my personal life.
So I went to stay with a friend for an extended weekend and I met his new lover. The new boyfriend seems nice enough, kind of shy, much too young amd a general cutie. Anywho my friend who has a STD has yet to tell the new guy but he confesed to me that they are having unprotected sex.
I of course immediately chastised him for this and told him to tell this 19yo guy that je claims to love that he is infected and now the young pup might be too. I was so upset about it I almost told the kid myself.
Now I'm back home and just dont know if I did enough.
Sure we are all responible for our own actions and both my friend and his bf should insist on condoms. But I feel strongly for this young kid who is in his first relationship first bf first love first time shacking up with someone. He is trusting completely and his trust is being abused.
I feel lik punching my friend in the face.
Thoughts?
I think you need to be a little more selective about who you call "friend."
Someone who knowingly infects someone with an STD is a worthless peice of human trash who deserves no loyalty from anyone. What he deserves is to be dragged into an alley and have his knees and elbows shattered by baseball bats. Then his face.
If he is willing to infect this young guy, he is willing to infect others. If the others he infects are unaware they've been infected, they will infect others in turn. Potentially, scores, if not hundreds, of people could be hurt by this. TELL THE GUY NOW.
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he's gonna learn quickly when he's peeing in pain; serves him right.
