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I would say that the vast majority (meaning in the 75-85% range at least) care. So, not "everyone," but most everyone. I always run into women -- it's always women, by the way -- who say on the Internet that women don't lie about their sexual history. It's always "nobody I've ever met lies about their number." Who are you women trying to kid?
Idk, in my group of friends we all rag on each other (in front of each others SO) about "remember that one night" or "remember that chick/guy" etc. we all have a good laugh about it. Everyone equally gets a shot.
So idk what we could all be hiding. We've all known each other for a long time through many gf's/bf's/ONS/FWB etc and trying to pretend those times didn't happen...just isn't going to happen. If you're going to be in our group, you gotta be completely open and honest...otherwise somethings going to be drug up out of your closet eventually without you wanting it to.
I would say that the vast majority (meaning in the 75-85% range at least) care. So, not "everyone," but most everyone. I always run into women -- it's always women, by the way -- who say on the Internet that women don't lie about their sexual history. It's always "nobody I've ever met lies about their number." Who are you women trying to kid?
This Board is very PC
I don't know why they just don't cut the BS and keep it real for once
Idk, in my group of friends we all rag on each other (in front of each others SO) about "remember that one night" or "remember that chick/guy" etc. we all have a good laugh about it. Everyone equally gets a shot.
But that's not the same as being honest with your past. Who cares if you mentioned "that guy"? I doubt the people you were with thought you were a virgin before them. So the acknowledgement that there was someone else is not shocking. But it's also different from saying "there were 30 guys before you. Just wanted to let you know. Wanna kiss?" See, by "being completely open with my sexual past," you mean "I implied there were other people," not "I actually am completely open with my sexual past."
I don't know why they just don't cut the BS and keep it real for once
A lot of people feel it's their job to make sure men or women aren't looked down on because, by association, that would mean they were being looked down on.
I think older women have higher expectations. When she's 23, your entry-level or part-time-while-you-go-to-school job is normal. When she's 33, she'll probably expect more from you. By 43, you've been in the workforce for a couple of decades, so a part-time or entry-level job probably doesn't cut it.
expectations are subjective, kind of like beauty is in the eye of the beholder. a young woman can be very pleased that a man can buy her simple gifts, pay for meals and drinks, help her out with bills. yet an older woman would call that a man "carrying his weight". is that a "higher expectation"? dunno, don' really care.
for me, the real interesting question is do men have higher expectations for women depending on a man's age? i think we do, and a man's age pretty much doesn't matter, almost all men expect women to never age past 29 and to maintain their physical appearance just that way too. and that, i think, is an unrealistic expectation, but it doesn't get much more real either.
But that's not the same as being honest with your past. Who cares if you mentioned "that guy"? I doubt the people you were with thought you were a virgin before them. So the acknowledgement that there was someone else is not shocking. But it's also different from saying "there were 30 guys before you. Just wanted to let you know. Wanna kiss?" See, by "being completely open with my sexual past," you mean "I implied there were other people," not "I actually am completely open with my sexual past."
It was an example.
Everyone knows everyone's numbers. I can vouch for them because I know everyone my best friends have slept with.
I don't know why they just don't cut the BS and keep it real for once
I have no idea what my friends have told their SO's about their sexual history. I didn't lie but I met my husband when I was 25 and have had very few sexual partners. I can't imagine anyone except for someone extremely religious being put off by my number.
And whatever expectation I had in my early 20's - they all seem to have been met and even surpassed!
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for me, the real interesting question is do men have higher expectations for women depending on a man's age? i think we do, and a man's age pretty much doesn't matter, almost all men expect women to never age past 29 and to maintain their physical appearance just that way too. and that, i think, is an unrealistic expectation, but it doesn't get much more real either.
I think I do, as a early 40s male. I know the battle with metabolism. I worked out little in my mid 20s, now I'm at the gym and/or running 6 days a week to keep the same weight. I just have to, and yes, I expect a certain amount of commitment to keeping in shape that I never had to think of in my 20s (as people had higher metabolisms).
Everyone knows everyone's numbers. I can vouch for them because I know everyone my best friends have slept with.
I know some of my friends' numbers but not all. However, I don't know if they have discussed their numbers with their SO's. In fact - I'd say that the the older they were when they met their SO's - the less likely it probably is to come up in the first place. I think people stop caring about that stuff as much the older that they get.
I know some of my friends' numbers but not all. However, I don't know if they have discussed their numbers with their SO's. In fact - I'd say that the the older they were when they met their SO's - the less likely it probably is to come up in the first place. I think people stop caring about that stuff as much the older that they get.
Well most of my friends started dating their SO in their very early 20's. If they didn't tell them their number, someone else with a little alcohol in them will.
Idk why some one in their late 30's early 40's would even contemplate asking anyone about their number of sexual partners. I agree its a 20's fascination.
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