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A couple of weeks ago I exchanged messages with someone from an online site. We exchanged a couple of messages, and I gave home my number. He invited me out for low key drinks on a couple of nights (he was out with friends and invited me to join).
I assumed that he was looking for new friends, which was fine by me as I like meeting new people. I said no a couple of times because I was busy/too lazy to go. So after 2 weeks of maybe I agreed to meet for a drink + dancing.
We met. He wasn't my type and tried to hard to make a move. We exchanged polite conversation, danced for a couple of songs and I left. He kept trying to get grabby, asked me to come back to his place etc.....
I said a polite goodbye and There was no comment from me like "oh let's meet up soon!"
I thought me ignoring his advances would be sufficient hints.
Boy was I wrong. After a few days he sends a text "want to meet up?"
I ignored. Then that followed with voicemails and texts checking in over the next week or so.
I thought I was safe after ignoring the 4th contact attempt (it has been like 2 weeks).
Well I was totally wrong, my phone rang, no caller ID. I don't always answer those, but someone was supposed to ring me at that time so I picked up.
It was this same guy: "OMG, I just wanted to make sure you were ok since you weren't responding to my calls and messages. I was worried about you. Are you mad at me, why aren't you calling me back....."
WTH?!?
I don't know, but when someone ignores 2 messages from me, I assume they aren't interested.
While assuming things apparently works well for you, many of us need to hear the facts to grasp them
Next time be more clear on your way out the door - "you seem like a nice guy, but I'm just not feeling the chemistry, good luck though!" THAT would be better than just leaving a guy wondering.
Unfortunately I get along with just about everyone. And I am also friendly and conversational. It is a bad combo for online dating! The odds are good we will have an enjoyable evening, chemistry or not.
The best way to stop the calls and texts is to be honest with this guy and tell him you are not interested in him romantically.
The truth really does solve a lot of issues very quickly and lessens the amount of drama and assumptions one has in their life.
its not that hard, grow a pair and if a girl ignores your advances you move on to the next and don't bat an eye
They all ignore my advances. LMAO What to do now? Tie 'em up in the basement? lmao Nah, keep persuading them that I'm a "nice guy". lol Even though they know I'm not. lol
The first text he sent you should have been a hint that he wasn't on the same page. The kind thing to do would have been to text him back with a "no thanks."
The first text he sent you should have been a hint that he wasn't on the same page. The kind thing to do would have been to text him back with a "no thanks."
Any fool shoulda/coulda figured that out. IMO she found a "creeper" or a "stalker". Best she avoided further contact with a weirdo like that. Don't ask how I know, I just DO!
I think women should run seminars or websites for each other on how to effectively reject men.
This topic seems to come up almost as much as 'whiny men' complaining about being rejected.
Someone could probably make some decent scratch if they hopped on the horse.
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