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Most single guys around 40 are going to be divorced/have kids/etc... I'm baffled why anybody would want to date a 40 year old man who has been divorced/has kids vs a younger man who is better looking and has no baggage. I don't mean that as hate towards older guys (I have friends in all age ranges) but it just doesn't make any sense to me on a logical level. I'm assuming you don't have any kids of your own - if you do, then I understand
Maybe 40 somethings are good in bed and know how to treat a woman and 20 somethings dont know what they are doing?
Who said guys in their 20s and 30s don't want long term relationships or kids? You realize most men get married in their late 20s right? That's a statistical fact
Most single guys around 40 are going to be divorced/have kids/etc... I'm baffled why anybody would want to date a 40 year old man who has been divorced/has kids vs a younger man who is better looking and has no baggage. I don't mean that as hate towards older guys (I have friends in all age ranges) but it just doesn't make any sense to me on a logical level. I'm assuming you don't have any kids of your own - if you do, then I understand
Whatever floats your boat I guess, though I wish people would stop justifying their preferences with ridiculous generalizations. It's okay to have a preference guys, you don't need to justify it with nonsense
One major thing for me is being with someone at a similar stage in life (long term relationships, kids, etc.) The majority around my age are in a completely different stage of life.
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Who said guys in their 20s and 30s don't want long term relationships or
kids? You realize most men get married in their late 20s right? That's a statistical fact
Most single guys around 40 are going to be divorced/have kids/etc... I'm baffled why anybody would want to date a 40 year old man who has been divorced/has kids vs a younger man who is better looking and has no baggage. I don't mean that as hate towards older guys (I have friends in all age ranges) but it just doesn't make any sense to me on a logical level. I'm assuming you don't have any kids of your own - if you do, then I understand
Whatever floats your boat I guess, though I wish people would stop justifying their preferences with ridiculous generalizations. It's okay to have a preference guys, you don't need to justify it with nonsense
I should clarify. The majority of men in my age group are at a different stage of life than I am, hence why I have pretty much exclusively dated older men. I am coming out of a marriage that produced children. Similarly, a lot of older men are in a similar situation. And I'm much more intellectually and emotionally (also sexually) compatible with older men.
My preferences aren't nonsense. They are legitimate and logical.
Maybe 40 somethings are good in bed and know how to treat a woman and 20 somethings dont know what they are doing?
You think a guy changes that much from the age of let's say 29 to 40?
You're kidding right? I have friends in all age ranges, from 24 to 45 and it's very hard to tell a difference a lot of times. Some of the guys who are the worst boyfriend material are the older guys - a friend of mine has never been married cause he just can't stay with one girl...always wants to date multiple women and ***** around. Some of my younger friends are GREAT guys who are 100% loyal to their girlfriends. It just all depends on the person
I just don't think age really means much once you're talking about fully grown adults out in the real world. I think it's very silly to generalize across the board like that. The sex thing is complete nonsense as well. Most guys start having sex at 15. If you're not good at something after 10+ years of practice...you're probably never going to be good at it
You think a guy changes that much from the age of let's say 29 to 40?
Depends on the guy, but in my experience, yes. Just like it can be said a guy or "people" change a lot from their college days to actual adulthood. I've changed quite a bit in 10 years.
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You're kidding right? I have friends in all age ranges, from 24 to 45 and it's very hard to tell a difference a lot of times.
Difference in terms of? It really comes down to the individual.
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Some of the guys who are the worst boyfriend material are the older guys - a friend of mine has never been married cause he just can't stay with one girl...always wants to date multiple women and ***** around.
The same can be said for men who are younger. I've met much fewer younger men who were interested in long term, committed relationships than older men. And I'm not referring to a small sample. But, I also recognize that it's all subjective.
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Some of my younger friends are GREAT guys who are 100% loyal to their girlfriends.
While loyalty should be expected, that isn't the only trait I look for when determining compatibility. There are great guys of all ages. But it isn't simply about the guy being "great"; rather, it's about what's compatible or what works for the other party (or couple). I have met nice guys around my age, and briefly dated a couple. Yeah, they're nice, but not ultimately compatible in the long run.
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It just all depends on the person.
Yes, and what the other party (dating said person) believes to be a compatible fit.
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I just don't think age really means much once you're talking about fully grown adults out in the real world.
It means a whole lot in many cases. For some, it's less to do with one's niceness and everything to do with overall compatibility, and that includes being at similar stages in life. There is a big difference between 26 and, say, the average age of the men I have dated, 38. Different life stages. In the same sense, I've known men to express the same when they date much younger women. I mean, what do you expect, if it's apparent you're at two different stages of life. My current beau's second wife is my age, but she's at a different stage of life than he is. He wasn't able to relate to her in many ways.
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I think it's very silly to generalize across the board like that.
Broad generalizations are never a good thing. There are always exceptions. However, when referring to social "norms," it's generally safe to assume there can be quite a difference in life experience (and in turn, compatibility) amongst the different age groups.
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The sex thing is complete nonsense as well.
Not in my experience, but then what I consider amazing sex or intimacy may be very different from most. For me, it isn't about the mechanics of sex or what is seen in today's porn. That, to me, is not intimacy, and I most often see 20's men attempting to mimic what they see, as if that's what sex or intimacy are supposed to be.
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Most guys start having sex at 15. If you're not good at something after 10+ years of practice...you're probably never going to be good at it
Eh. Perhaps we have a different opinion of what is "good." I prefer older men simply because I have found I am most compatible with "seasoned" men intellectually, emotionally, physically, and sexually.
She's beautiful, classy, nice...would love to have a relationship with her
To be blunt, if the above is true, it would be foolish to not see where it goes, just because she is 31.
If she is interested in you, go out with her.
If you don't there's a good chance in 10-15 years, you'll look back and be like, "I should have at least tried...."
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