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All this talk about women loving their kids more than their husbands got me thinking about this. If your wife or husband loved your dog/cat more than you would you be jealous or resentful?
My nephew's wife is, for lack of a better word, obsessed with their dog. Her Facebook feed is constant pictures of the dog. She won't travel unless the dog can go with them, because she won't get a petsitter or leave her at a kennel for even a weekend. She's made my nephew sleep on the couch so that the dog can sleep in the bed with her. I don't know that she loves the dog more than my nephew, but it's not normal. I get that a pet is your buddy, but at the end of the day, it's a dog. It's not a child, or even a person. It rolls in garbage and drinks out of the toilet and is just happy to be loved.
i just wouldn't get married in the first place to a woman who could think her pet is more important than her [not estranged/not about to divorce/etc] husband
i love my pets 100% but they aren't people. so of course my *closest* loved ones are more important to me
Dogs and cats are nice, but they're just animals. And people who prefer animals over people do so because they generally have underdeveloped social skills. With pets, all you have to do is pour kibble in their bowls and give them a pat on the head. People actually require thought and interaction on the basis of equals.
I would have serious issues with a SO who gave her pets more of her mental energy than she did to me.
All this talk about women loving their kids more than their husbands got me thinking about this. If your wife or husband loved your dog/cat more than you would you be jealous or resentful?
Why the heck would anyone marry someone who loved anyone more than them?
Now, when kids come later, feelings shift and all that, but you'd have to have a screw loose to marry someone who already was more in love with their ferret than with you.
This is actually a pretty good argument (and I'm NOT trying to dredge this chestnut up) for not getting with single parents. You will always be second to the kids. And some women have told me you'd be THIRD because their career comes next. I am sure that is true of men, too. Maybe even more so because their career tends to define them more.
Ha. No, thanks.
It's one thing if your relationships change and evolve.
It's another thing going into it already low on the list.
This is actually a pretty good argument (and I'm NOT trying to dredge this chestnut up) for not getting with single parents. You will always be second to the kids. And some women have told me you'd be THIRD because their career comes next. I am sure that is true of men, too. Maybe even more so because their career tends to define them more.
Ha. No, thanks.
It's one thing if your relationships change and evolve.
It's another thing going into it already low on the list.
I agree. In healthy marriages, nothing comes between you and your spouse. Not your career. Not your kids. And certainly not some dumb dog.
That is not to say that you shouldn't love your job, for that gives you income and fulfillment. And that is not to say that you shouldn't love your kids, but kids are ultimately guests in your life. If you've done your job, they grow up and move away.
But in your marriage, it's you and your spouse. Everything else should come second.
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