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It's a choice to be happy -- or sad -- about the holidays. There are far better things to do during this time than feeling sad because you're not in a relationship. They're not all they're cracked up to be anyway.
Personally, I am more than pleased to be alone and single -- There's no stress, worry or anyone raining on my parade. The day I meet a decent woman is the day I'll consider a relationship. I've always been at my best (and happiest) as a single individual.
Stop buying into the commercialization of dating. Most people we meet are not ideal, yet we fall into the trap of "needing" that person because of social pressures. Don't follow the norm, unless you enjoy "following."
I'm single, and unfortunately, my work schedule will have me spending Christmas alone (I live in a different state from my family). But I don't hate Christmas. Partially because this year, being by myself, I don't have to listen to my attached friends blab on about all the sweet, precious things they got from their partners....or complain over the sweet, precious things they were expecting to get from their partners, but did not, LOL. And the other part...after Christmas sales. YES, I cannot wait for that!
I was thinking of this today...I'm not single and maybe the grass is always greener, but I wouldn't mind the holiday season by myself!
I'd put up a little tree (that doesn't look like a toy store threw up on it), bake one batch of cookies that I like, order stuff online and have it shipped to my house. I'd put the boxes under my little tree and open them on Christmas morning.
Then I'd make myself a vegetarian dinner and drink a bottle of wine and only have to clean up one dish, one glass and one set of flatware.
I love my family...I do, very much. I just hate the holidays. It is too much "work"...I feel like a slave at this time of the year.
To me Christmas isn't that bad because it's a family holiday, as in you can still spend it with your parents/grandparents/siblings when you're not married. New Year's Eve and Valentine's Day are much more annoying because on those days and nights if you are not half of a couple the world is not going to let you forget it.
Don't let it get to you. I don't think all the marrieds are so brilliantly happy during this time either. Some are upset they didn't get that diamond tennis bracelet that the neighbor got...that stuff.
I'm single, but I don't hate the holidays. I dress to the nines and I go to all of the child-free and elegant and fun holiday events that I can find, lol. What I hate is the attitude I get from other people that there is something wrong with ME for not wanting any miserable child-rearing life.
All the marrieds that I know are even more spectacularly miserable than usual, this Christmas. Either they have marital problems + money problems + child problems themselves, or their useless kids do. Everyone is busy mentally and physically exhausting themselves and plunging deeper into debt trying to make it The Perfect Family Christmas. What they ought to be doing is just give up, scale back, and tell anyone who is not happy with that plan to "go to Hades, or the Golden Corral buffet, or the soup kitchen, but gtfo of my house. Now."
I really can't stand my Mommy-Martyr female relatives and friends at this time of the year. They exhaust themselves doing all of the gruntwork and cooking and baking and decorating and shopping, and their lazy and selfish and thoroughly unappreciative spouses and offspring do absolutely nothing but sit on their butts, and maybe spend 2 hours eating and opening presents before running off to have some fun, leaving the Mommy-Martyr(s) stuck there alone with all the mess and dirty dishes to still be cleaned up.
Personally, I prefer to spend my holidays NOT being the family squaw. Why those women want to be such doormats, I will never know. Nobody appreciates half of the stuff they do, anyway. Their spouses and kids make fun of them, even.
I'm single and it's a love hate relationship for me during Christmas. Love it because I dont have to waste money on my SO. Hate it because I don't have a SO to waste money on..
I know it sucks walking down the street or around campus and seeing couples holding hands,and out and about.
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(I live in a different state from my family). But I don't hate Christmas. Partially because this year, being by myself, I don't have to listen to my attached friends blab on about all the sweet, precious things they got from their partners....or complain over the sweet, precious things they were expecting to get from their partners, but did not, LOL. And the other part...after Christmas sales. YES, I cannot wait for that!
