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I dated a guy who went to the Naval Academy, though we met and started dating at 16. He was away a lot and I was not wanting to sit around while he was in school and getting his degree. He proposed two years before he graduated, but I knew he was going for a military career. That life was not for me. I declined politely. We fought a lot while we were together.
I've been on both ends. I was a mud Marine and dated civilians and as a civilian I've dated a few military women.
I toyed with a woman who was in the Coast Guard. I'm a drunk and she drank more than me... One day dreading another trip to the battle cruiser (boozer/bar) I told her that I wanted to date a woman because I was sick of the nuclear sub (pub). She said, "Great, we can drink at home it's cheaper." I told her that I wasn't interested in drinking at all, and if I wanted to drink, I didn't need a woman to help me that I was quite good at it all by myself. Outside of sex and drinking, we shared nothing in common. Furthermore, she was going to make a career out of the Coast Guard Reserve, and I really didn't want any parts of the military after I left the Corps.
I've run around with a few Army Reserve and National Guard women because I'm next to a military base. After about two dozen, I gave up because they were almost always boozehounds and or they'd tell me they were married after the deed and weren't really looking to get serious... Hum, no kidding... Furthermore, they seemed to lack something that civilian women had. Many of them were just crude and while I can be quite provincial myself, it's just the chameleon in me rather than behavior I enjoy.
The bottom line for me was like the poster above Jrsygrl51, I did not want to live the military lifestyle. I hated the Corps and like lillyflower stated, I knew that if the Marine Corps had wanted me to have a wife, it would have issued me one. I heard that quite a lot. If I remember correctly, one had to get permission to marry from the C.O. Hence, I didn't want to be with a woman who was in the military, be dragged all over the globe, and expose my children to military life.
Thanks for reading,
bolillo
Last edited by bolillo_loco; 11-20-2013 at 09:17 PM..
Reason: No Rhodes scholar here
I'm engaged to a Navy chief, and it's totally normal (apart from moving around to different duty stations, but I actually like that aspect). No drama. He's the most sweet-natured, kindhearted, stable, easy-to-be-with man I've ever been involved with.
inflexibility is part of their strength also self confidence lots of it.
for me i love my waffling and self doubt. it means i have not killed anyone deliberately.
I was married to someone for 24 years that worked for the state Fish and Game. They have to be married to their job to a certain degree and that can really interfere with family life.
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