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Thats right. gut instinct is an incredibly good tool to pay attention to. Many people dismiss it, but thats foolish. Its protection mechanism provided to us by nature, people have relied on their gut instinct for thousands of years. If your gut tells you your SO is cheating, more often than not, they are. At the very least, its a good jump off point to investigate it further.
hmmm...ever watch a movie and someone has a gut instinct or they make it look like someone is lying only turns out they were telling the truth??? It happens in real life also.
You know your SO is being shady when there's a pattern of red flags. A guy I dated for 4 months was all attentive and available for the first 2 months and then after that he kept blowing me off, giving me excuses as to why he wasn't spending as much time with me anymore, telling me he was too busy to see me on weekends, yet I'd find out after the fact that he'd been partying and somehow didn't invite me. He did a few other shady things, too. It seemed like he was seeing someone else, but even if he wasn't, he obviously wasn't being up front with me about it and didn't care enough about me to be honest. So whether he was cheating or not, he was lying and not treating me right.
It's not necessary to keep dismissing your hunches because you don't "know for sure." Why wait for the grenade to go off before you put two and two together?
This is from surveys from people who have been cheated on and signs they saw
1. Spouse becomes emotionally distant, especially in public
2. Spouse is easily angered
3. Asking for more space, and wants to keep things private
4. Increase in work hours, business trips and after-work meetings
5. Paying extra attention to their apperance, this is especially deadly with the combination of four and one. A person being overburden with work would put less attention to their apperance, and if he did he should not be emotionally distant.
Does anyone here know the real signs of being cheated on?
I say that there are none and you never really know what your partner is thinking?
And there is no such thing as a tell tale sign of someone lying...
I think that the more you know someone the more difficult it is to tell if they are lying.
any experiences out there?
Unless you are a paranoid person, the surest sign someone is cheating on you is that you suspect them. People who suspect cheating are rarely wrong. In fact, when the truth finally comes out, they usually find out the cheating was FAR worse then they ever suspected.
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Unless you are a paranoid person, the surest sign someone is cheating on you is that you suspect them. People who suspect cheating are rarely wrong. In fact, when the truth finally comes out, they usually find out the cheating was FAR worse then they ever suspected.
The only problem with that statement is there are TONS of paranoid people out there.
Just listen to your own internal voice, just like this thread, begs attention. I do think you are looking for someone to give you the correct answer and there isn't one. I used to wake up at 3 am every night and I knew I just knew. Sure enough I was correct - I just didn't listen to myself. You need to match your own neurosis with every situation.
Unless you are a paranoid person, the surest sign someone is cheating on you is that you suspect them. People who suspect cheating are rarely wrong. In fact, when the truth finally comes out, they usually find out the cheating was FAR worse then they ever suspected.
True.
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