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Old 12-23-2013, 06:31 PM
 
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My parents were married for 10 years and they hated each other. My parents argued constantly and sometimes it got physical. I was exposed to this as a young child all the way until I was 22 years old. I've had problems relating to women and have even went to therapy for childhood issues due to my parents toxic marriage. Did my parents marriage give me a negative outlook on relationships?

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Old 12-23-2013, 06:37 PM
 
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Keep up the therapy. If your first therapist didn't work out, try another. At such a young age, you probably suffered trauma due to the toxic, unpredictable and sometimes violent (and scary for a child) environment. Try a therapist who specializes in trauma and childhood issues. Since you're so aware of the problem, there's great hope for you to have a stable relationship. But you probably have to learn good communication skills, as well as resolve your feelings about your experience. Good luck!
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Old 12-23-2013, 06:38 PM
 
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Most likely, yes.

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Old 12-23-2013, 06:40 PM
 
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Yes. I witnessed my mother get beat by her boyfriend a lot, and I have intimacy issues. Anything intimate, even hugging is hard for me.
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Old 12-23-2013, 06:41 PM
 
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If you let them. Or if you live with them.
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Old 12-23-2013, 06:43 PM
 
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Yes, I think parents have a huge impact on their children's relationships.

A child can end up with relationships similar to his/her parents' or they try to live an extremely opposite way.
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Old 12-23-2013, 06:51 PM
 
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Yes. I witnessed my mother get beat by her boyfriend a lot, and I have intimacy issues. Anything intimate, even hugging is hard for me.
That's so sad. I jump when people touch me.
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Old 12-23-2013, 06:52 PM
 
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If you let them. Or if you live with them.
I live with my mom now. My dad is out out of the picture.
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Old 12-23-2013, 06:54 PM
 
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Keep up the therapy. If your first therapist didn't work out, try another. At such a young age, you probably suffered trauma due to the toxic, unpredictable and sometimes violent (and scary for a child) environment. Try a therapist who specializes in trauma and childhood issues. Since you're so aware of the problem, there's great hope for you to have a stable relationship. But you probably have to learn good communication skills, as well as resolve your feelings about your experience. Good luck!
I'm slowing learning all these things. It will take a long time before I can develop a real relationship with a woman.
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Old 12-23-2013, 06:56 PM
 
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Nah my mom and dad were happily married for a long time. He passed when I was 22.

I'm still single go fig.
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