He called me his girlfriend...does this mean I have to be exclusive? (dating, boyfriend)

[ShatteredHope]

A few months ago I dated this guy for about 3-4 weeks. We got along well, had insane chemistry, etc, but were both really busy and it just didn't work out. He recently contacted me again and we had a date last week that I thought went very well, and another today.

So first today he told me he is not seeing anyone else and is only seeing me and would like to keep it that way for a long time. I was honest with him and told him that I am not seeing anyone else either, but have been talking to another guy. I met the other guy online and we talk on the phone and text quite a lot, we havent met yet but have a date planned for this Sunday.

Later in the day, he said something about his last girlfriend that did xyz, and referring to me doing the same thing. Then later after that he said something to me calling himself my boyfriend. I was caught off guard at the tiime and didnt think to say anything, by the time I did I felt like it would have been making a really big deal to say something hours later.

We've still only been on 2 dates this time around. But if you were this guy, would you want me to stop talking to the other guy? He's so sweet and non controlling that I know he probably would never ask that of me. Or is it early enough yet that it's ok im talking to someone else? I really really like him and would love to be his girlfriend...but at the same time I like talking to the other guy and want to meet him. He texts me a lot and talks to me often, about everything. The guy I'm currently seeing doesn't, i have a great time with him but he rarely talks to me on days i dont see him

[Drover]

So is this the guy who wanted to take you to a cheap motel, or the one who asked if your two kids were by different dads?

[grumptacular]

You had better make a big deal out of it now as opposed to later. He sounds to presume a lot. My 2 cents, set some boundaries, or he is going to make things more uncomfortable for you.

[ShatteredHope]

Lol...neither! I was dating him before either of them, the first time. He's truly a quality guy.

[CSD610]

Why don't you just let life happen and quit worrying about putting a label on whatever it is you don't have currently with either guy.
Life is so much simpler without all the dramatic complications that are so unnecessary.

[ShatteredHope]

Originally Posted by CSD610

Why don't you just let life happen and quit worrying about putting a label on whatever it is you don't have currently with either guy.
Life is so much simpler without all the dramatic complications that are so unnecessary.

Because I really like him and dont want to hurt him. Ive never dated more than one person at once, this is brand new for me. I know he wont tell me even of he does want me to stop talking to the other guy, that's why I asked if you were this guyvwould you be ok with it since it's still vety early, or would you want me to stop talking to the other guy?

[AverageGuy2006]

Originally Posted by ShatteredHope

Because I really like him and dont want to hurt him. Ive never dated more than one person at once, this is brand new for me. I know he wont tell me even of he does want me to stop talking to the other guy, that's why I asked if you were this guyvwould you be ok with it since it's still vety early, or would you want me to stop talking to the other guy?

If you dont want to be the guys gf yet, then next time he uses such lingo, just be honest and say, "I'm not ready for that." if you arent.

This is messy, I dont personally like it when someone claims to be my s/o without having had that conversation yet.

[Mikala43]

you don't have to be anything. You both say what you want and if you agree you're good, if you disagree you may be able to come to a compromise, or maybe not.

[srjth]

No, but you also need to say something to him to let him know that he at least needed to ASK you to be his girlfriend and give you the choice, not just assume that you are his girlfriend.