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If you were never asked out, my question is are you out and about? Out in public? Socialize?
I'm young and jobless, but I do some volunteer work to improve my chances with employment. Where I volunteer, there's very little social interaction. Most of the people I talk with are older middle aged people, and seeing as I'm only 21 almost 22, yea I don't see anything happening there. I also go to the gym, where again there's very little social interaction. The thing is people always say you gotta talk to people. Well while I understand that, why does no one ever initiate conversation with me? I mean in the two semesters of community college I did, I have 0 friends from there. I have one friend from high school. I'm a shy person, so it's not easy for me to walk up to people and start talking to them. You never know if someone is busy and doesn't want to be bothered or not. Like at the gym for example, people are working out. How many women really would like to be approached by some random guy asking for their number? So it basically sucks if your prospects for social interaction are really low to start off with. I guess when I get a job, the bars and clubs will be my place. Seems to me young people are expected to be party hounds anyways.
I'm young and jobless, but I do some volunteer work to improve my chances with employment. Where I volunteer, there's very little social interaction. Most of the people I talk with are older middle aged people, and seeing as I'm only 21 almost 22, yea I don't see anything happening there. I also go to the gym, where again there's very little social interaction. The thing is people always say you gotta talk to people. Well while I understand that, why does no one ever initiate conversation with me? I mean in the two semesters of community college I did, I have 0 friends from there. I have one friend from high school. I'm a shy person, so it's not easy for me to walk up to people and start talking to them. You never know if someone is busy and doesn't want to be bothered or not. Like at the gym for example, people are working out. How many women really would like to be approached by some random guy asking for their number? So it basically sucks if your prospects for social interaction are really low to start off with. I guess when I get a job, the bars and clubs will be my place. Seems to me young people are expected to be party hounds anyways.
You don't approach them asking for their number. You start very low-key with a little chat, or asking if she's waiting for the machine you're on, whatever. Gradually you build from there, and watch the quality of her response. If she doesn't warm up to a convo, you try another woman later. If she does enjoy at least a short convo, you keep it friendly next time. Eventually, if it feels right, you ask her if she wants to get a coffee with you after the workout, or ask for a number.
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