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What were you crying about exactly? And what do you mean by "when things get real?" Were you trying to get him to be exclusive with you? Was he emotional at all during this conversation or was he caught off guard?
If he's not ready to commit, he probably did you a favor. I know it hurts now, but it's better in the long run to hear it from now than even further down the road. He might not be ready to break up at all, but it's not a bad idea for you to move on given what you've told us here.
He said he's not a game player but it sounds like he was addicted to the drama in his past relationships.
Things got real, as in serious. I felt that he was not fully committed to me..that he was half way in (based on thigns he's done/not done) and sort of acting like a bachelor. I would have been able to be a lot more rational if I wasn't pmsing lol (like I said, happens to the best of us) and I would have talked it out, instead of crying about it. I told him he seemed a little different and less interested than before. He didn't agree with me.
We are exclusive. Been exclusive for about 3-4 months now (no specific date) but I've known him 5 months. You're right, he may not be ready to break up at all, but he's acting like it. If he really wants to be with me after this behavior i'm seeing, then we need to have a very serious talk about how blowing me off for a week is not ok when things start to get a little challenging. We'll see if he can prove that, if not, I'm done. I realize I probably did catch him off guard but there should have been more communication about what's going on. I fully understand that there are things I need to work on (even yes, my communication skills) but that's the thing, if 2 people really want to be together, you work through things together.
Sure, I do. The difference is that I never blame pms for my actions.
Not necessarily blaming it on pms..just saying its a reason..hence why I apologized to him. I'm human. I was hurt and because of pms, everything I was already feeling was exacerbated. do I really need to explain how this works?
I've forgiven him for his mistakes. I don't know if we'll make it past this one though so now I'm venting.
No I wouldn't but here's the thing: most of the time, once a man is married, he's not bailing unless there is something really messed up going on. Women initiate most divorces. All the divorced men I've met over the years, with the exception of one (who was bat sh*t crazy) did not want their divorces.
Date divorced dudes, then. Do whatever works for you. Personally I'd rather be with someone who hasn't found the person they want to marry yet than someone who has tried and failed, but that's just me.
Although the girl in the video was probably suffering PMS as well, so that's ok, isn't it?
At 35 he is old enough to look at the above behavior and not dismiss it because of his raging hormones like a 20 year old guy would.
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