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And can you fall in love with someone else if this person is still out there?
There is a woman in my past that fits this image, but we could never be together because of issues that I could not deal with. She is currently with someone else.
I was curious how many people have someone from their past that fits this profile?
The man who I did consider the love of my life (and perhaps, in many ways, still do) struggled with telling his family about me. We dated for a year, and eventually made plans for a permanent future together. He was the only child of a well-to-do upper class family, and was expected to date and marry someone who looked, phenotypically, just like him and his parents. I didn't fit that description. When he eventually did tell them about me, they didn't approve. He didn't have the courage or strength to fight for me, or for us. Instead, he just gave in. He gave up. He went on to marry another woman, but I know, for certain, that he's unhappy.
Without expecting to, I've fallen in love with a new great guy. And he makes me very, very happy.
The battle wound I sustained is still with me, I confess. It hasn't gone away, and I'm uncertain when, if it ever will. I've learned to continue to go on with my life...even if it's me walking with a limp, one day at a time.
I had someone I was with for a long time and I would have swore he was the love of my life. I would have walked to the end of the earth for him however we just kept having problems and stupid issues. After almost 7 years I couldn't do it anymore he had let me down one to many times so I walked. We remained friends for about a year but I haven't seen him for over a year and I'm ok with that.
I think you have to give things another chance sometimes in order to completely understand and accept why you don't work and get closure. Only then can you move on and be happy.
I was with the love of my life for 7 years. We even had a wonderful child together. I trusted her completely and shared every aspect of my life with her and we had, or at least I thought we had, a great life together.
Little did I know that in the fall of 2010 she started having an affair with a guy on the internet through some kind of cyber chat room. I knew she was on it and because I trusted her I never questioned all the time she spent on the site. Looking back now I should have seen the red flags like the frequent text messages and her serious addiction to the website but again I was naive and never in a million years would I have thought anything was wrong.
In the spring of 2011 she told me that her "friend" was coming for a visit and I was actually stupid enough to believe that it was totally innocent. Well, March 1 2011 arrived and she went to go pick him up at the bus station. After they came home I started to piece things together piece by piece. They way they stood a little too close together. The lengthy walk around the neighborhood. That evening while I was on my computer in the bedroom and they were "watching" TV in the living room next to the bedroom I heard the distinct sound of kissing. I peeked around the corner and although I didn't see anything I knew I wasn't imagining it so I decided to bait the trap. Told them I was heading to the store for a while and would be back in an hour or so. She was so distracted by her "friend" that she didn't even notice how late it was and there were no stores open at that hour. So I left the house and stood outside for a few minutes and waited. I came back inside and caught them making out on the couch.
I calmly asked for an explanation but was simply told she was in love with him and was going to be leaving with him in the morning. I couldn't find the words to muster up a reply so I simply went into our sons room, wrapped him up with some blankets and we left and headed down to my parents house.
When I came back in the morning she was still packing some things in her car. I made one last desperate attempt to talk to her and see if there was any way to salvage the marriage but she refused to speak to me.
Found out after she left, after going through all her emails and contacting her on-line friends, that she had been planning it for months. Made up all kinds of horrible lies about me and told them and her new lover that I beat her and was abusive and she was desperate for someone to come save her from her horrible life. The truth was the total opposite. I lived her more than anything and would do anything for her and did everything possible to make her happy. I think her lies about me hurt more than anything else.
This coming March will be 3 years since she left. Part of me still has an eternal fire of hate for her and what she did and how she abandoned our son and I yet part of me still loves her and misses her although I know that the girl I fell in love with is long gone and it almost feels as though she died that day.
I've moved on but it's just not quite the same. Don't think it ever can be.
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