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As a woman, how do you counteract their meanness/*******ness towards you when they realize you are the only female in the office who is less than impressed and will not go along with their antics? When they realize that you are ACTUALLY NOT attracted to them and are not capable of being whipped into a frenzy to the point where you are ready to jump their bones like the other gals???
Oh! I really need help with this because it has gotten me in trouble in the past. I have been on sheeit lists and lost positions behind it. I am a very serious character and I jdgaf about stroking a man's ego (or anyone's for that matter) and 99.9% of the time, refuse to allow myself to be charmed. My stance is I go to work to work and not to make you feel good about yourself. It's a little unsettling that these types always seem to find their way towards me. I've tried keeping my distance but it seems that only makes them more aggressive.
I'm getting tired of this and I need some advice. I notice when I do give them the time of day (small talk usually related to work) they act like they can't be bothered, lol. It's like a vicious cycle and I'm tired of being sucked in. There's one in the office now who I think has just given up altogether but has put me on his ignore list. Why are people like this?
As a woman, how do you counteract their meanness/*******ness towards you when they realize you are the only female in the office who is less than impressed and will not go along with their antics? When they realize that you are ACTUALLY NOT attracted to them and are not capable of being whipped into a frenzy to the point where you are ready to jump their bones like the other gals???
Oh! I really need help with this because it has gotten me in trouble in the past. I have been on sheeit lists and lost positions behind it. I am a very serious character and I jdgaf about stroking a man's ego (or anyone's for that matter) and 99.9% of the time, refuse to allow myself to be charmed. My stance is I go to work to work and not to make you feel good about yourself. It's a little unsettling that these types always seem to find their way towards me. I've tried keeping my distance but it seems that only makes them more aggressive.
I'm getting tired of this and I need some advice. I notice when I do give them the time of day (small talk usually related to work) they act like they can't be bothered, lol. It's like a vicious cycle and I'm tired of being sucked in. There's one in the office now who I think has just given up altogether but has put me on his ignore list. Why are people like this?
Yea, I don't know.
Hot men are used to getting what they want because all of the women drool over them. Good Question.
As a woman, how do you counteract their meanness/*******ness towards you when they realize you are the only female in the office who is less than impressed and will not go along with their antics? When they realize that you are ACTUALLY NOT attracted to them and are not capable of being whipped into a frenzy to the point where you are ready to jump their bones like the other gals???
Oh! I really need help with this because it has gotten me in trouble in the past. I have been on sheeit lists and lost positions behind it. I am a very serious character and I jdgaf about stroking a man's ego (or anyone's for that matter) and 99.9% of the time, refuse to allow myself to be charmed. My stance is I go to work to work and not to make you feel good about yourself. It's a little unsettling that these types always seem to find their way towards me. I've tried keeping my distance but it seems that only makes them more aggressive.
I'm getting tired of this and I need some advice. I notice when I do give them the time of day (small talk usually related to work) they act like they can't be bothered, lol. It's like a vicious cycle and I'm tired of being sucked in. There's one in the office now who I think has just given up altogether but has put me on his ignore list. Why are people like this?
You are already on the ignore list so what is the issue?
If you are being ignored there is no ego to stroke or anything else for that matter.
My question is why you are like this? I've worked with mainly men a lot and it has never been an issue for me. I go in, do my job, stay out of office politics and gossip and go home.
You are already on the ignore list so what is the issue?
If you are being ignored there is no ego to stroke or anything else for that matter.
My question is why you are like this? I've worked with mainly men a lot and it has never been an issue for me. I go in, do my job, stay out of office politics and gossip and go home.
Why am I like what?
I don't have a problem being on the ignore list just trying to gather some insight on why I keep reliving the same experinces. Was just using this new example with this co-worker to further drive home my point. Perhaps I'm completely off?
He is locking you out because you serve no purpose for him. He cannot get anything from you because you have shown that you do not in any way find him attractive, therefore he's not even going to go through the motions.
What you need to learn is that there is a way to make a man feel wanted and useful without agreeing to go out with him or making him think you're INTO him.
You should have just played along. It's JUST this side of flirting. You can play their game while staying professional. But now you have to play catch-up, which won't work.
SO their only thing you can do now is truly NGAF.
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And I hope we get some good advice because I am stumped.
