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She might be hanging around you a lot because you're her "superior" in a sense. She's probably looking to you on how to direct her and she may also be nervous. Hence why she's even around you on breaks. Keep in mind, people from other cultures have different ideas of personal space so hers may not be as stringent as the typical North American's view.
I just think its really weird. Maybe this belongs somewhere else on here but I've always felt that if I keep making physical contact with a girl it means she likes me.
Do you like her now? If you do, did you like her even before all the physical contact?
Do you like her now? If you do, did you like her even before all the physical contact?
I'm very curious...
I'm on the fence. Doing this kind of thing has probably made me more attracted to her as I would probably never give her a second glace if she wasn't doing this. I would probably go for her if it didn't requite a lot of work, was short term, and wouldn't come back to bite me in the ass. I can tell you I don't really want to date her or "pursue" her.
Puzzled why her race was brought up, especially in the thread title.
No, it's not.
Do you not seriously not know this? Personal space certainly does vary from culture to culture which might be the reason why she stands so close. Personal space in Latin America is much closer than the US, it has nothing to do with her race, it has everything to do with her culture.
If it's bothering you why not just tell her? Who cares if it's cultural? She's living in America where we have "personal space", SHE needs to accept that things are different here. I really get tired of Americans being expected to conform to others when THEY are the ones who came here and should conform to OUR ways! Next time she does that just be like "Can you give me a little personal space, please?".
I don't really care I just think its weird.
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Puzzled why her race was brought up, especially in the thread title.
No, it's not.
I didn't bring up her "race" I brought up her culture which if you've read the other comments seems to be important here. She's not native to my culture and I am a little confused.
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Do you work for a fairly large company? Go immediately to your personnel people and tell them what is going on and ask them to reassign her to someone else. You are CRUISING for a sexual harassment allegation even though none of this appears to be your fault. She may not be this innocent not understanding personal space woman that you think she is. She is harassing you and you need to take this seriously before you lose your job. All men and women understand the language of what is going on when a woman is getting so close that you are brushing up against her breast.
I work part time at a little shop. I have a full time job somewhere else where I would be worried about that. I'm sure if I were to complain to the people above me something would happen because I'm the one being made "uncomfortable". At the same time we all know each other really well and people know what's going on.
Thanks but I'm certain there is no way I could lose my job (that isn't even that great) because she's bumping into me. If I worked somewhere else maybe.
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If YOU are interested in her then simply ask her out after work? If she's not into you, she'll run the other way. Problem solved!
I'm on the fence. I'm at the point where I don't want to put all the effort in and go for her the same way I'd go for someone I'm really interested in but I'm totally fine with something happening. I might start flirting with her a bit.
Do you work for a fairly large company? Go immediately to your personnel people and tell them what is going on and ask them to reassign her to someone else. You are CRUISING for a sexual harassment allegation even though none of this appears to be your fault. She may not be this innocent not understanding personal space woman that you think she is. She is harassing you and you need to take this seriously before you lose your job. All men and women understand the language of what is going on when a woman is getting so close that you are brushing up against her breast.
Yes, this is what I thought. You should tell your human resources people that she's being inappropriately close to you, and that it has caused awkward problems for you. Make it clear to them you don't want all this attention from her, and that she crowds you to the point that you accidentally bump into her regularly. You need to get your side of the story on record, in case she decides to make a complaint for any reason. (Feels rebuffed by you, gets into a control trip, wants revenge for any reason real or perceived)
You CANNOT let this slide, and just ignore it! Things like this have a way of suddenly taking off in an unexpected direction and spinning out of control.
Having met several people from Central and South America I can confirm that they do tend to have a cultural lack of personal space. They seem to all be right up in your face and climbing in your lap. They are very friendly and warm people. I would suspect that your co-worker is not aware that she is intruding on your space. For her is is probably just very natural and normal and not at all some sort of sexual advance.
She might need someone to very kindly explain to her about boundaries and personal space in our culture though.
Do you not seriously not know this? Personal space certainly does vary from culture to culture which might be the reason why she stands so close. Personal space in Latin America is much closer than the US, it has nothing to do with her race, it has everything to do with her culture.
No need for the insult/talk down to me.
What got lost is a person could be the clingy type regardless where she is from. I thought it was obvious what I meant but apparently it wasn't.
I'm on the fence. Doing this kind of thing has probably made me more attracted to her as I would probably never give her a second glace if she wasn't doing this. I would probably go for her if it didn't requite a lot of work, was short term, and wouldn't come back to bite me in the ass. I can tell you I don't really want to date her or "pursue" her.
Oh. Well, then I say leave it alone.
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