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Having a profile is all about first impressions. If you were meeting someone in person, would the first things out of your mouth be, I don't want someone who is about drama, cheats, doesn't have a job, doesn't take care of his kids blah blah blah? More than likely it would not. I understand why some people do it, because they think they are being upfront and don't want to meet someone who was bad to them before, but this isn't the way to do it.
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Having a profile is all about first impressions. If you were meeting someone in person, would the first things out of your mouth be, I don't want someone who is about drama, cheats, doesn't have a job, doesn't take care of his kids blah blah blah? More than likely it would not. I understand why some people do it, because they think they are being upfront and don't want to meet someone who was bad to them before, but this isn't the way to do it.
Exactly correct. It reflects very poorly on the person posting that stuff in the profile. In some ways it is good because I know not to message those people.
I always wondered why places like OKC don't have a message filter/blocker that prevents people that have certain attributes (children or smoking for example) from even messaging someone that wants to screen that out. Even ages ranges. It would be easy to set that up.
Is any guy going to read it and say, "Well, yeah, I am a hurtful and jealous person...so I won't message you."
That sentence achieved absolutely nothing.
Actually people are sometimes aware of their own faults internally even if they do not admit them to others. So a sentence like the one you describe could save a lot of time - theirs and hers.
Actually people are sometimes aware of their own faults internally even if they do not admit them to others. So a sentence like the one you describe could save a lot of time - theirs and hers.
Well sure you will get a small amount of guys who are aware of their own faults but you will get a larger number of guys who are actually "douches" and will try to message her for a sport.
Don't message me if you are a player. lol the players reading this will more likely try to message you as a sport.
Is a player going to read it and tell himself, "yep, im a horrible person and a player and a douche. I cannot message you."
Having a profile is all about first impressions. If you were meeting someone in person, would the first things out of your mouth be, I don't want someone who is about drama, cheats, doesn't have a job, doesn't take care of his kids blah blah blah? More than likely it would not. I understand why some people do it, because they think they are being upfront and don't want to meet someone who was bad to them before, but this isn't the way to do it.
I wish there was a way to know right off the bat if they were SINGLE (had a run-in with a married pig who hid it at first), child free, disease free, religion free, and cigarette free. So, yes...I would like to know that right up front. Even new female acquaintances...I would like to know right up front if they have kids or are religious. No thanks to either.
Don't message me if you are a player. lol the players reading this will more likely try to message you as a sport.
I am not sure that is true. But even if it is - your OP asked what the rationale behind such things are - not how effective it is. You might not believe it an effective approach - but you did not ask was it an effective approach. You asked what the "reasoning" was for doing it.
Actually "players" who want to sleep around etc will be looking for "easy targets". A sentence like the one you describe could easily alert a player to the fact this person is likely not so easy to play.
But by your rationale - why express any desire at all as to what kind of partner you are looking for? Because no matter what desire you express - someone could just be the opposite and play you anyway.
I am not sure that is true. But even if it is - your OP asked what the rationale behind such things are - not how effective it is. You might not believe it an effective approach - but you did not ask was it an effective approach. You asked what the "reasoning" was for doing it.
Actually "players" who want to sleep around etc will be looking for "easy targets". A sentence like the one you describe could easily alert a player to the fact this person is likely not so easy to play.
But by your rationale - why express any desire at all as to what kind of partner you are looking for? Because no matter what desire you express - someone could just be the opposite and play you anyway.
I also see those posts as making a guy/girl work too hard to please you. It just comes off as a test. Well, they passed this test, maybe they'll fail the next one so I won't get hurt by them. In the end, it seems that all you're doing is wanting people to fail. Your ultimate goal comes off as wanting to be single, instead of wanting to be in a relationship.
Women aren't the only ones...I've seen guys do it too.
As have I. I remember one whose profile started with a statement about not messaging him if you were a "fatty" because he only wanted to meet those who were HWP. Which he was not. He went on to say he hated the gym and was looking for someone who would help him get into shape.
Don't message me if you are a player. lol the players reading this will more likely try to message you as a sport.
Yep. All it says is "I'm more vulnerable to the games played by players". Might as well paint a target on your forehead.
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