I need some advice about my relationship!!! (dating, boyfriend, girl)
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I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years now. he is such a nice guy to me... he treats me so good except he complaints a lot and is a little immature since. hes 21 and I'm 23, he has a little girl who's 3 and a baby boy with me who's 18 months. financially we basically depend from each other. i have not been feeling the same for him for a little over a year now... its getting to a point where he feels like hes losing hes feelings for me too since im not affectionate with him which i completely understand. now here's the thing i met this guy which i like so much. me and him kissed and since that day i can not get him out of my head. me and this guy talked as basically friends including the kissing for about a month or maybe less but i i was feeling horrible for doing that to my boyfriend and i decided to end it. now this guy does not talk to me unless is about work and doesn't seem to be interested in me at all. i think so much about this guy that i don't even have time to think about my boyfriend. after i ended it with that guy i have been miserable because i feel like i wanna be with him but i cant because 1 i have a boyfriend and a family and 2 because i don't think this guys has any interest in me. i don't even feel like i wanna work the problems with my boyfriend because i feel like I'm not gonna be happy if i don't feel the same way for him but at the same time i feel like if i leave him I'm jut destroying a family. i feel like i should work things out with my boyfriend but at the same time i have no desire to.
please give me some advise i don't know what to do anymore. i feel bad for my boyfriend but i also feel bad for me. i know i did wrong and that i deserve to be punish. i wanna make my boyfriend happy but i don't even know where to start if i don't even feel like kissing him. i have been dying to talk to the guy but i am to proud to approach him in any way. i guess im just waiting for something that never is gonna happen and while im waiting im losing a man that really loves me.
Last edited by dominiloca1; 02-03-2014 at 03:31 PM..
Well, you're a mom of a very young child. It's time to get off the boyfriend merry-go-round.
Your first priority has to be providing a stable home for the baby.
You need to be honest with yourself and your BF. It doesn't sound like you love him. If you need each other financially, you know that you will need to find another place to live. Do you have family nearby?
Another person who has cheated on her SO and rationalized it in some crazy way.
Fixed that for you.
You are a parent, as a parent your first responsibility is to your child. Part of adulthood is doing things you don't want to, in this case, trying to fix your relationship with the father of your child.
I doubt your fantasy guy is much interested in being responsible for a new GF and her child.
I know that was harsh, but you need to grow-up.
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Wow...move in with family, sadly if the father won't compromise get joint custody, child support (are you ready for that?), stop dating period until your life is in order. You don't need a man at the moment.
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