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Let's take a scenario where due to poor economic conditions (like today), a lot of men cannot find stable employment until they are into their late 20's. They are educated and have work experience, but are struggling. By the time they are in their early to mid-30's, they are more financially stable and have established careers. Suppose these same men want to get married (religious or non-religious tradition) and have children.
This to most people, would be a considerable age gap. Assume the average age gap is 7 years. For the men-- if you were 30-35, would you be okay with this? Would it bother you to marry a woman who might be more than 8 years your junior? For the women, if you were 22-28 would this bother you? What if the man in question was 35, and you were 25?
Btw-- I am not starting this thread to incite a gender war or anti/pro-marriage debate. I'd like to actually hear what people have to say, as I've met a few people in real life who share these views but believe there's a stigma (aka "oh he has jail bait/she's just a gold digger").
From a woman's point of view, most 25 year old women simply don't see 35 year old men as attractive...they prefer men closer to their own age. That is why the scenario you propose doesn't happen more often. There are exceptions of course.
From a woman's point of view, most 25 year old women simply don't see 35 year old men as attractive...they prefer men closer to their own age. That is why the scenario you propose doesn't happen more often. There are exceptions of course.
Fair point. What in particular isn't attractive about them? I can understand a 20 year old looking at a 35 year old guy and thinking "eww old person." Why wouldn't a 25 year old find a 35 year old man attractive if he was indeed physically attractive?
Age related factors play into compatibility though in the long term though.
Age related factors DEFINITELY play into compatibility.
But, considering that most divorces occur in marriages with a small age gap, I would say that there are other elements that determine long-term compatibility equally, if not more, than does a larger-than-usual age gap.
My uncle married a woman who was 11 years his junior. He loved having a younger, hotter SAH wife... until he was ready to retire and qualified for medicare... and discovered he was going to have to pay a small fortune to pay for her health insurance.
She used to tease him all the time about how "You didn't think about that when you decided to marry a hot young thing, did you?"
Exactly. This sounds like an arranged marriage scenario.
This sounds like another guy pretending that women all love much older men because of the financial stability which is a huge myth. Most women work so they don't need a man to support them. There's nothing wrong with marrying someone older/younger (with BOTH sexes)as long as that's not why they are marrying. So many men I saw on dating sites wanted younger and they wanted younger not for love but for very bizarre reasons.
Who the hell cares? Marry for love and compatability.
Age matters more to some than others.
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