Another work place crush... (dating, women, love, single)
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So I have just recently developed a sort of crush on one of my co-workers. I've worked with him for about 3 years and I guess you can say we've developed a good friendship. I've vented to him about my guy problems and vice versa. I've never looked at him as anything other than just a friend, I mean I always thought he was good looking and very funny but he's a different race than I am and I've never really been physically attracted to anything other than white men.
But a group of us from work went out this past Saturday, and when I got there and a friend of mine told me he was coming, I got this exciting feeling to see him. Anyway, he got there and we hung out even danced together, I was a bit tipsy so he kept making sure I was ok (he'd do that for anybody though he's gentleman in that sense).
Long story short, he has told me in past conversations that he would not get involved with anyone he worked with and I understand why, so I know basically nothing will happen between us. And I'm sure this crush will go away, as I've had others at work which went away pretty quickly. Just kinda sucks because I feel like him and I have so much in common, and I think he finds me attractive since he always tells me how pretty I am. I do however know that he had a major flirtation going on a couple of years ago with another co-worker to the point where he sent her flowers to her house for her birthday. I know this because the girl was a friend of mine, but they kept it secret so I was the only one she told, he might even know that I'm aware of it since me and the girl were very close at the time this was going on (she's engaged to another man now).
So do I just give up, and wait for this crush to subside, or should I take a risk and make a subtle move?
I know but the thing that holds me back, is that he has said he wouldn't date anybody he works with. Even with the girl he flirted with, they never went out on an official date or anything.
Long story short, he has told me in past conversations that he would not get involved with anyone he worked with and I understand why, so I know basically nothing will happen between us.
Sounds like you're just crushing because you know you can't have him. Grow up and move on - it's a waste of time. And he's smart to not want any involvements at work.
Thanks, but not worried since I've never hit on any of them. I had a crush on one other guy but never acted on it, and believe me he never knew.
We know when women are crushing on us more often than not. Aanyway, for a guy who "doesn't date anyone at work" to send your friend flowers, that is pretty bold, so perhaps he isn't as opposed to dating at work as what he says.
I would guess he has limited interest if anything, since he hasn't made a move on you in all this time (3 years). Also the other posters are right in that it is best not to mix work with romance (though of course sometimes we do it anyway as we are human after all). I'd move on.
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