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Probably not. I would wonder why he didn't have a job, even though he was intelligent and otherwise 'all that.'
Not sure how many men (who make average salaries) would want to date a woman who didn't have a job either.
None that I know would date an unemployed woman. It seems true of both sides. If unemployed, focus on getting a job as for the most part people of both sexes will view it as a huge negative.
i think his employment should only be considered on how it weighed in the relationship. Just as other suggested if he's fine financially pursuing a reasonable passion, or investing on his education than there should be no problem. I think most assume that if he is unemployed he just a bum or something which isn't always the case. In the end if you don't agree with his lifestyle you could always talk to him about and see if you guys can move forward or not
This also depends on how old the people in question are. college age is totally different than mid 20's and out of college onward.
Women who automatically disregard unemployed men are going to miss out on some great guys, seems a little ridiculous to put such an emphasis on whether or not he has a job. There is an unprecedented transfer of wealth going down through generations right now, and that guy who doesn't have a job might be sitting on a 500k-5 million dollar bank account courtesy the grandparents/parents, and is focused on growing that wealth but doesn't want to clue you in on it lest you go after him because of it. And you pass him by, lol.
Obviously some guys are GED wielding, totally broke moochers who have no intention of making anything of themselves. You have to be able to separate people on a case by case basis and not operate under generalized rules or your going to lose out, imo.
I really don't think there are that many unemployed men who are loaded, for all these women to miss out on.
This is a question to the women here on this board.
Say you met a guy, he's tall, attractive, physically fit, neat and clean, decent personality, sweet, charming, intelligent, decent size penis, good lover (i.e. attentive, giving, open, etc.). But he has one major flaw. He's unemployed.
Would you date him?
Yes. Being unemployed temporarily is not a major flaw in my book.
Plus, I have enough money to live a good life, his income especially while we are dating is just a bonus.
This is a question to the women here on this board.
Say you met a guy, he's tall, attractive, physically fit, neat and clean, decent personality, sweet, charming, intelligent, decent size penis, good lover (i.e. attentive, giving, open, etc.). But he has one major flaw. He's unemployed.
Would you date him?
No. I would be suspicious as to the circumstances of him being unemployed. How could a man like this not have a job period? He might have a few acceptable excuses such as going to school full time, a recent accident or disability, or a windfall that allows him to live a life of leisure. Other than that...why would this guy be unemployed?
EDIT: upon your additional information: still no. I would not believe I have anything in common with such a person. "I work really hard 'cuz I'm no fun!" I would admire such a guy who had all the money he needed yet spent his time doing something worthwhile like volunteering.
It would depend on the situation. Is he lazy or is there a good reason he isn't working. Life happens. I try not to be so judgmental because I have been unemployed and have wondered the same thing .....would a guy date me?
A lot of people here are saying they wouldn't care because they have their "own money" or that they simply don't care. That is not the case for a lot of people.
I don't think income should be the primary indicator of a good mate, not at all. However, I bet a lot of people would change their tune of they were barely making ends meet themselves, and a good looking man/woman came along who wanted to move in with them or start a life with them who was also unemployed. To me, that's a completely unacceptable situation. After a certain point, you're in survival mode. If I was making under 30k a year and met a man who was unemployed and gorgeous, I may hang out with him and date him casually, but I probably wouldn't pursue him as a serious prospect (I date with the intent to marry some day), since that's just survival. How on earth could you support someone in your home if you can barely support yourself? Something would need to change.
If you are just talking about casually dating, sure. You can do plenty of things for free. You might not meet a lot of people looking to be serious though. Like I said, I dated to meet people who I saw as a potential life partner.
Its really sad given the state of our economy, but people who haven't been unemployed before (or in a long time) don't understand. I went through 2 years of unemployment. During that time I dated one woman for 3 months. I know she ended it because of me being unemployed, despite me paying for all our dates, great sex, and me being an all around good, very educated guy. It didn't matter. Women are shallow in this way.
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