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No many women start with blinders on when in public because they have been harassed for years when out and about. Shemar Moore doesn't even have a chance.
What's the difference between a 5.5 and a 6? Oh wait, doesn't matter because i don't rate people numerically by physical attractiveness.
"Hi" is two letters. It's the bare minimum you can type and form a word used as a greeting. It takes no effort at all, and I perceive it as if you're that lazy about an introduction, it's likely reflective of your personality. Why should I say hi back when another guy puts in the effort by leading off with an introduction and a question, something to engage me in a conversation? I have a friend who texts "hi" and he uses it as a test to see if I'm out there and available to text, usually if he's bored. When he really wants to talk, he sends a text with content to it.
Can't speak to online behavior but before I was married, "Hi/Hello" was one of my most effective pickup lines for approaching someone cold!
Similarly...
I learned common greetings/phrases from the common languages of women that were in my area; Spanish, Russian, Korean, and Portuguese. It gets their attention when someone here makes an honest attempt at making them feel welcome in their own native language.
I once met a couple girls hanging out at a club; one was Brazilian and the other Russian. I greeted one in Portuguese and the other in Russian. They loved it.... the Russian one and I eventually dated.
Back on topic... I think women get hit on so much that they have a natural "filter" to weed out men. The key is to get past that "filter".... learning languages was one way I discovered to set me apart from others. Looking/dressing really good is another... but I don't have any advantage in that department... just a resourceful little Asian dude.
It seems guys are more likely to respond to "hi" than girls are when the sender of "hi" is a 5 or 6.
Girls react like-- "eww. He's a 5.5. Not replying to that."
Guys are more like--
I know she's a 6, but....
"sup baby girl. how you doin?"
What are your expectations here?
Chime in.
How many different ways can one cry about the same thing?
If you want success at anything in the real world then get off the dang computer and go put yourself in the real world. Live it, experience it, talk to real humans with your voice and see what happens.
How many different ways can one cry about the same thing?
If you want success at anything in the real world then get off the dang computer and go put yourself in the real world. Live it, experience it, talk to real humans with your voice and see what happens.
There you go. Great advice. I've been off the market for over a decade now (met my wife in Oct 2005) but if I suddenly were thrust back into the dating scene I'd not go online, I'd do it in person. I'm confident enough in my personality and appearance, and it doesn't hurt that there does seem to be a demand signal I can detect from time to time, which only boosts my confidence.
Online dating was a solution without a problem. It can be fun, and I did it in the past too. But it was never the main effort. More just a way to increase my odds by meeting people I'd otherwise not cross paths with.
How many different ways can one cry about the same thing?
If you want success at anything in the real world then get off the dang computer and go put yourself in the real world. Live it, experience it, talk to real humans with your voice and see what happens.
I ignored "Hi. How are you?" messages 99% of the time. High matches did not message me with a basic message. The vast majority of the time it meant they did not read my profile.
Absolute no-go.
If you want success you need to put in the effort, whether it's on or offline.
There you go. Great advice. I've been off the market for over a decade now (met my wife in Oct 2005) but if I suddenly were thrust back into the dating scene I'd not go online, I'd do it in person. I'm confident enough in my personality and appearance, and it doesn't hurt that there does seem to be a demand signal I can detect from time to time, which only boosts my confidence.
Online dating was a solution without a problem. It can be fun, and I did it in the past too. But it was never the main effort. More just a way to increase my odds by meeting people I'd otherwise not cross paths with.
I don't think OLD is the go-to due to confidence issues. I'm pretty confident and didn't struggle with getting approached offline. I just found OLD to be a highly efficient screening tool and way to weed out incompatible people. It was the perfect way to find fellow introverts, too.
There was a higher chance of meeting my type online than off, and it's especially true as one approaches the married/attached age range where many people you run into offline are likely to be attached. Location/region also play a big factor as well.
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