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Old 04-01-2014, 08:41 PM
 
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I went out on a date with a girl that I felt that I had great chemistry with about 2 weeks ago. It seemed like we had a lot of fun together and had everything in common. We kissed in the first date and then continued to make out some in her car. I did not push for sex at all (not a concern for me, I really wanted to date her). She is 21 and I'm 25 as well BTW


Anyways, the next day, we arranged another date for next week but about 5 hours later she sent me a text saying that she had a great time but she didn't see it going any further cause she still has feelings for somebody else. I said that's ok and I haven't contacted her since...she hasn't contacted me either


Anyways, is it worth it to contact her again? She was such a cool girl but I obviously don't want to pursue somebody who is not equally interested in me. Is it worth it just as a hail mary? I obviously don't have very high expectations of this ever going anywhere
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Old 04-01-2014, 09:57 PM
 
Location: Canada
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I would not. Either she was honest, or she was lying, but either way, she's not interested. You shouldn't need to hear that more than once. Move on.
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Old 04-01-2014, 10:07 PM
 
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No, because then you'd have to pretend to be her friend and then you'll get friendzoned.
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Old 04-01-2014, 10:11 PM
 
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I went out on a date with a girl that I felt that I had great chemistry with about 2 weeks ago. It seemed like we had a lot of fun together and had everything in common. We kissed in the first date and then continued to make out some in her car. I did not push for sex at all (not a concern for me, I really wanted to date her). She is 21 and I'm 25 as well BTW


Anyways, the next day, we arranged another date for next week but about 5 hours later she sent me a text saying that she had a great time but she didn't see it going any further cause she still has feelings for somebody else. I said that's ok and I haven't contacted her since...she hasn't contacted me either


Anyways, is it worth it to contact her again? She was such a cool girl but I obviously don't want to pursue somebody who is not equally interested in me. Is it worth it just as a hail mary? I obviously don't have very high expectations of this ever going anywhere

Didn't you ask this exact same question about the second week in March? I doubt that the answers are going to change from then to now.
She made it clear the relationship was not going to go further so move on.
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Old 04-02-2014, 10:56 AM
 
Location: Hampton Roads
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We already told you NO on your other thread.
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Old 04-02-2014, 11:53 AM
 
Location: NYC
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He's in Ground Hog's day except he is the only one who doesn't realize things have happened before and he's trapped in a month loop.
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Old 04-02-2014, 11:56 AM
 
Location: Jupiter
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I went out on a date with a girl that I felt that I had great chemistry with about 2 weeks ago. It seemed like we had a lot of fun together and had everything in common. We kissed in the first date and then continued to make out some in her car. I did not push for sex at all (not a concern for me, I really wanted to date her). She is 21 and I'm 25 as well BTW


Anyways, the next day, we arranged another date for next week but about 5 hours later she sent me a text saying that she had a great time but she didn't see it going any further cause she still has feelings for somebody else. I said that's ok and I haven't contacted her since...she hasn't contacted me either


Anyways, is it worth it to contact her again? She was such a cool girl but I obviously don't want to pursue somebody who is not equally interested in me. Is it worth it just as a hail mary? I obviously don't have very high expectations of this ever going anywhere
She isn't interested. Find another woman.
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Old 04-02-2014, 02:31 PM
 
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I went out on a date with a girl that I felt that I had great chemistry with about 2 weeks ago. It seemed like we had a lot of fun together and had everything in common. We kissed in the first date and then continued to make out some in her car. I did not push for sex at all (not a concern for me, I really wanted to date her). She is 21 and I'm 25 as well BTW


Anyways, the next day, we arranged another date for next week but about 5 hours later she sent me a text saying that she had a great time but she didn't see it going any further cause she still has feelings for somebody else. I said that's ok and I haven't contacted her since...she hasn't contacted me either


Anyways, is it worth it to contact her again? She was such a cool girl but I obviously don't want to pursue somebody who is not equally interested in me. Is it worth it just as a hail mary? I obviously don't have very high expectations of this ever going anywhere
Nope.

Keep your dignity and don't contact her.

She obviously wanted you more and didn't give it.
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Old 04-02-2014, 04:14 PM
 
Location: SoCal again
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Nope. It would just invite drama.
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Old 04-02-2014, 04:22 PM
 
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I am going to disagree and say you should totally do it. Just let her know you can't stop thinking about her as you lay alone in your bed every night. Tell her you are a better man than that other guy--or any guy she will ever meet. Park outside her house and text her until she comes out.

And please, please, please post the results here.
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