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Ok, so I met a girl from Okcupid the other day and for the first time in my life I think I've met a girl that a truly like and think is compatible with me. Unfortunately I met her online and you know how that goes, easy come, easy go, she's probably getting 20 messages a day.
We didn't exchange many messages online, she says she's not much of a texter and surprisingly she was willing to meet before exchanging many messages.
So we met last night and it seemed to go well. We both talked a lot about a lot of different topics and at the end of our date she mentioned that she may be able to do something on Sunday.
I told her to text me, is that bad? I'm thinking maybe that didn't sound right.
My question is should I text her first before Sunday? What should I say? And if she excepts another date what can I do to let her know I'm really interested in a subtle way? Buy her some flowers?
I assume a guy is not very interested if he doesn't text me within 12 hours or so after a date.
Flowers are risky. She may be charmed, or creeped out.
A wiser move would be to show your interest by connecting with her in a real way. Be present. Listen to what she says and to the feelings behind her words. Be aware of her body language and when she wants to be closer or less close. Be silly. Be kind. Share a bit of your real self.
Well the 12 hour window has closed, I was thinking I would text her tomorrow. I'll keep that in mind about the flowers, not sure why she would be creeped out. Too much , too soon?
I did everything else on the first date, listen, silly, kind, etc. I guess I'll just keep doing that. I couldn't read too much into her body language.
You might be the only one who cares which method of communication she uses .
I don't think he's totally wrong. A lot of people are so reliant on texting nowadays, that if a guy tells a woman to call me, he's automatically standing out from the pack.
do not be too available she will think you have no life and clingy .
I have to agree with this. That's why I don't want to text too soon. I think it will make me look clingy because she already knows I don't know anyone around because I'm new to the area. I did tell her that I'm taking a few classes and groups though.
Location: I don't know..If you find me, let me know.
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- Know that you belong on the date. Have some confidence in your game.
- Be a gentleman (for real); no matter what your motive behind the date, you must be genuine in the matter of manners. Hold the door for her, tell her she's beautiful, and have good posture. Do not get the wrong idea about this, however; being a gentleman does not mean you treat her as if she is perfect and flawless.
- Act as if you've been there before. Even if she's a good looking girl, you have to hold firm. Don't think that she's too good for you.
- Don't be a jerk; the cooler you are, the more intrigued she'll be.
- Make sure that even if you are not that great looking, you smell good. (However, too much cologne is not good!)
- Whatever you do, do it well; make other girls around want you also (so she can be more open to your spontaneous gestures).
- Don't be overly attentive all the time. Flowers on 1 date is nice, flowers on every date becomes meaningless.
- Unless she is a total loser (gold digger, liar, etc.), never burn your bridges. That ugly duckling can definitely become a sexy chick.
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