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I won't answer the poll because I am not into FWB situations either. Although I ended up in one (mistaken expectations--I thought we had a relationship he did not. It ended because of that).
But coming from a different point of view, if I found out a man I was dating was in a FWB situation and having sex with her... it would be over. Call it what you like, but in my book that's cheating. I've been cheated on before and refuse to tolerate it ever again.
I won't answer the poll because I am not into FWB situations either. Although I ended up in one (mistaken expectations--I thought we had a relationship he did not. It ended because of that).
But coming from a different point of view, if I found out a man I was dating was in a FWB situation and having sex with her... it would be over. Call it what you like, but in my book that's cheating. I've been cheated on before and refuse to tolerate it ever again.
My ex wife cheated on me and I can relate.
But it's not cheating if everything is out in the open.
I have no intention to give up my LDR and anyone I may get involved with will know. She is my friend as well.
I really don't think I could date a man who was having sex with someone else--who else is she having sex with? What if she sees him more as a FWB, will there be a drama-filled love triangle... yuck, yuck, yuck. There are plenty of other men out there for me to put up with that potential drama powder keg.
And if it got to the point where we were going to have sex, then pretty much that goes hand-in-hand with exclusive. Although I messed that up with the last relationship as well (even though in reality we "were" exclusive and I thought we has something more, it got me hurt because he assumed we were FWB). Won't make that mistake again either.
As for the whole sexual compatibility issue that men sometimes bring up... I would hope if a man liked me enough to want to be in a relationship, he would withhold screwing around with other women for a few weeks to see if we can figure it out. If it doesn't work out... then we part ways and he can go back to his FWB.
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I'm interested in hearing the gender breakdown as well. When I ask this question to people I know id say 70 to 80 percent of the males say they wouldn't care as long as they are still having sex with the woman in question, while with the women a similar percentage(arguably more) will say exclusivity is a must for this type of relationship
If me and a woman were having sex but not dating, I wouldn't care. She's not my girlfriend, I don't care what she does.
My understanding of FWB is a friend that you've known for a while, and since neither of you is in a relationship with someone, and not wanting to have random sex with strangers, turn to each other to meet your sexual needs, until such time as one of you finds someone else.
So no, it wouldn't be okay to have sex with me and someone else at the same time. We can just go back to the friend portion of our relationship.
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I've always thought the point of a FWB was to have sex when neither one of you have a partner to do it with. I sort of think it's disrespectful to sleep with someone else while you have a FWB situation. You're opening the FWB up to diseases without their knowledge. (if they dont know you're sleeping with someone else)
But it's not cheating if everything is out in the open.
I have no intention to give up my LDR and anyone I may get involved with will know. She is my friend as well.
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They're my friends. I encourage them to date, get out there and live life. If that means we stop sleeping together, no biggie. The friendship is what stands the test of time.
Exclusivity with a FWB doesn't make sense to me, that sounds like a committed bf/gf relationship.
It has more to do with the fact that you don't want to be dipping your thing into a cooch infested cave... I mean really, I don't think its a matter of being exclusive in the sense that you can't see other people but when you throw sex into the equation, why would you want to sleep with someone that's also sleeping with possibly 3 other people or more in a given week or two?
At some point, someone would be bounded to contract something...all for an "Easy" FWB deal...no thank you
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