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You are in a committed relationship. A female friend of your boyfriend whom he has known for 20 years asks him to spend the night at her place because she wants him to hang some stuff from her ceiling. She wants to cook dinner for him, watch a movie or a tv show with him, have him hang some stuff from her ceiling, have him sleep on her couch while she sleeps in her bedroom, and then go out for breakfast in the morning. She is aware that he is involved in a committed relationship. She has met his significant other. She along with a male friend of hers has gone out with the 2 of you at least 3 times before asking him to spend the night at her place.
My husband has done this with his female friends that he has known for 20+ years and it doesn't bother me a bit.
They have been friends and involved in his life 10+ years longer than I have and outside of that I trust my husband to the core of my being. I am also not jealous nor possessive and he is a grown man who can make his own decisions.
This has happened before we were married as well and still not a concern with me, we have been committed to each other for 10 years now and married 7 and have known each other for 15 years. I certainly don't lose any sleep when he is out of state visiting a female friend all by himself.
I would be suspicious of the connection between hanging stuff up and cooking dinner, sleeping over, hanging out over breakfast i.e. if she needs someone to hang stuff just have him over to do that and then ask him to leave.
I would be suspicious of the connection between hanging stuff up and cooking dinner, sleeping over, hanging out over breakfast i.e. if she needs someone to hang stuff just have him over to do that and then ask him to leave.
I feel the same way.
Why the need for the other activities when the main thing she wants him to do is to hang stuff from her ceiling?
I wouldn't dream of turning to my gf and saying "I'm going to go to 'her' house to watch a movie, have dinner, hang some stuff and then sleep over."
I'm on call for all my female friends, I'll do anything for them..But I'm not having date night with them. Why the hell would I want to sleep on a couch when my woman is at home waiting for me?
Edit: I'd assume his friend is up to no good. Better safe than sorry.
Meh. This is no big deal for me. I date men who have women as friends, usually.
Heck, my one ex used to drive down to his ex FWB's house to stay the night when he would help her out with her house. I was on very good terms with her. She was his best friend, and several years older than him. She'd stuck by him when he'd gone through some tough times, and I was always grateful she was in his life during those periods. (And she'd usually side with me, whenever I'd have a disagreement with him. LOL.) I was never worried that they would hook up - they'd burned out their attraction almost a decade before we ever met.
Do you like the friend? Do you trust her? Have your bf and this woman been completely transparent about their interactions? Do you trust your bf?
I wouldn't be crazy about the idea and would hope it doesn't become a regular thing, but yeah I guess it would be all right.
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