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So my GF and I are both 20 and have been dating for 6 years. I'm pretty studious and am currently trying to get a degree in Journalism from LIU-Brooklyn. I live at home simply because, I can get to school with ease and there's no point living in a dorm. My GF Nicki, is much much more good looking and more outgoing than me, very much a free spirit and always has been that way, very in the moment/go with the flow personality. She's always put her socializing over her studies, I'm not trying to sound like I'm reprimanding her, but that's just a fact. She graduated high school and decided she was done with school so now she has a job. I used to, I guess you'd say, party, when I was 16 or 17, but I got bored with it, because I never saw the point, I know that may seem kind of like a buzzkill, but I never saw the point of getting together with people, and drinking a bunch and taking " selfies". What's the point? I'm more of a conversation guy, a good time in my book, is just talking about anything and everything. Unless Nicki begs me, I won't go " party". On to my problem: She usually has the nights off so she goes out and parties five or six nights a week, goes to bed, goes to work, parties, repeat. I really want her to get a degree in something or even CC. I mean if she's fine waitressing for the next 50 years, that's cool, but I just want to see her make her life all it can be ( Oh God, I've become my mother ). I would like to marry her someday. Where do I go from here? Appreciate the help
First post, seems legit. My opinion? You obviously don't have same brain waves right now. I actually am surprised that you are the guy in this scenario. It's usually the other way around.
Your priorities are obviously on the right track, your gf isn't. Now it's up to you if you are gonna wait for her to mature. It really should come from her to get her priorities straightened out.
First post, seems legit. My opinion? You obviously don't have same brain waves right now. I actually am surprised that you are the guy in this scenario. It's usually the other way around.
Your priorities are obviously on the right track, your gf isn't. Now it's up to you if you are gonna wait for her to mature. It really should come from her to get her priorities straightened out.
No, it's not a waiting game. You should accept her for who she is and if you can't do that it is your problem. If you guys get along and she's faithful to you I don't see a problem. Let the poor girl live her life the way she wants instead of being forced into your view of "how life should be lived".
Just because you think you know what's best for someone doesn't mean that it is. Show your gf some respect, let her have her fun. If you can't deal with that then break up with her.
You want to go to college? So be it, but that doesn't mean she has to right now. You're not her dad and she doesn't have to live life like you do.
If you really care for her, then you won't try to change her.
It is surprising a guy like you is with a girl like her. Opposites really do attract. I am similar to you, I never went out to parties or liked to drink. I don't think their is a point in it either. I am little older than you (21). I hope your personality differences don't cause a problem in the future.
If you really care for her, then you won't try to change her.
It is surprising a guy like you is with a girl like her. Opposites really do attract. I am similar to you, I never went out to parties or liked to drink. I don't think their is a point in it either. I am little older than you (21). I hope your personality differences don't cause a problem in the future.
I'm so glad I'm not at that age anymore.
As I reached my mid 20s, women started being more accepting about who you are instead of trying to control every little aspect of your life.
As I reached my mid 20s, women started being more accepting about who you are instead of trying to control every little aspect of your life.
Never really understood the point of trying to control and change people in a relationship. It defeats the whole purpose honestly......I don't think it really depends on age. Depends on the type of person you are with and the people you involve yourself with. I have honestly seen more controlling females in the their 20s, 30s, 40s, and so on. It all depends on the person.
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). I would like to marry her someday. Where do I go from here? Appreciate the help 
