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I met this guy "online" about a month and a half ago. We just chatted. He was never forward or inappropriate. It was always "What do you like?", "Where does your family live?", etc. Once he suggested hitting some golf balls but I kind of wasn't interested due to the fact that he was recent out of a broken engagement (and a 3 year relationship).
The more we talked though, the more interested I became. I pried a bit, asking about his ex-fiance and what happened. Apparently she denies the cheating but his friends saw her out with some guy and she never came home that night. She also didn't make any attempt to fix the situation.
I'll spare the rest of the details which are just that we click really well, have a lot in common and he's exactly my type.
The best part ... his ex-fiance currently still lives at the home they bought together (he was honest about this). He lives downstairs and she lives upstairs. He says she is moving out and back home soon.
Is this even something I should involve myself in? I mean, how over this girl is he really?! How much can you move on from someone after only 2 months? He is very attentive towards me - we talk every day - and he's such my type. I just don't want to walk into something that I'm going to get hurt from.
You could see where things go. Main thing is don't rush. As you said, he was engaged to a woman he was with for 3 years. To be getting so into you in less than even 3 months seems like he's rebounding.
Not to say he's using you. But just that he is very hurt by the situation, and thus he's moving very fast to get over it, and not grieve to much. So, he meets a nice girl, and gets a new start for a fresh relationship, which may lead to him wanting to dive head first to escape past trouble.
So, I won't say dump him. Some relationships start in weird, or unlikely ways. But do go slow, and don't be rash--like moving in together too soon, or getting married fast, etc. And if you are having sex, use good birth control. You don't need kids yet either lol
You could see where things go. Main thing is don't rush. As you said, he was engaged to a woman he was with for 3 years. To be getting so into you in less than even 3 months seems like he's rebounding. Not to say he's using you. But just that he is very hurt by the situation, and thus he's moving very fast to get over it, and not grieve to much. So, he meets a nice girl, and gets a new start for a fresh relationship, which may lead to him wanting to dive head first to escape past trouble.
So, I won't say dump him. Some relationships start in weird, or unlikely ways. But do go slow, and don't be rash--like moving in together too soon, or getting married fast, etc. And if you are having sex, use good birth control. You don't need kids yet either lol
Thanks
I honestly wouldn't describe him as moving too fast. Yes, we talk every day, but he isn't pushing to see me all the time. He has hobbies and things he has going on as well, which I like because I'm a gym rat and don't like to miss my gym sessions
But, this is definitely a strange situation and different territory for me. Until she is out of the house, I'm not sure I want to go over there (although, I don't think he would have me over if she was there).
No worries about moving in together too soon - my lease isn't up until April 2015 and he owns the house (he is keeping it). And I honestly won't sleep with him for a while. I'm not going to be a sexual rebound either.
lol, yes. We have hung out a few times. I'll see him this Sunday too.
And sorry, I didn't really go into detail about our time together. It is fun and we click but I was more looking for advice about the broken engagement situation.
Take it very slow and do not become too attached initially (protect your heart). There is a lot of baggage here to inspect before letting the plane taxi away from the gate.
Take it very slow and do not become too attached initially (protect your heart). There is a lot of baggage here to inspect before letting the plane taxi away from the gate.
People always give this advice but personally I think it's impossible. You can't control your level of attachment. You can only choose to admit it or deny it.
sounds like your relationship is moving along slowly for good reason by both parties. even if you are a rebound girl, it sounds like he wants more than that also. i wouldnt delve to deeply into his past at this point, as you two may decide that friendship is all that is in the cards for you two ultimately.
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