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Old 06-02-2014, 05:58 AM
 
Location: southwestern PA
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Blunt, but thank you for the honesty. I know I have personal work to do...thus moving out and taking a step back. So I'll take that response as- I'm not crazy for wanting to move out, but I'm crazy.
Pretty much....
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Old 06-02-2014, 10:44 AM
 
Location: NYC
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as I had never been on my own prior to my divorce (married at 18, for 11 years, divorced less than 9 months moved in with him)
You should probably ask yourself what is so scary about being alone for the first time since 18 that made you move in with someone so quickly.
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Old 06-02-2014, 11:36 AM
 
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Get as many of your things as possible. If you have to leave anything behind, do it and cut your losses. Get out ASAP.

His control and manipulation could easily led to physical abuse.

From past experience, his whining that he can't afford his own crap will led to you having zero funds to fall back on.

YOU take care of YOU.
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Old 06-02-2014, 11:40 AM
 
Location: Middle of the valley
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Blunt, but thank you for the honesty. I know I have personal work to do...thus moving out and taking a step back. So I'll take that response as- I'm not crazy for wanting to move out, but I'm crazy.
Well, you DEFINITELY have a good sense of humor. That's a huge plus.

But I think you summed up your situation well.
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Old 07-05-2014, 05:33 PM
 
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Thank you for all of those who responded, blunt or otherwise
I am now on my own 100% and have been for the past month. This has been very difficult for me, but as other posters stated I did need to be on my own- I have some work to do.

Since the diagnosis of crazy from this forum I have now gotten me some therapy too. My therapist believes that I am a harmless crazy so I'm allowed to roam the streets, and have a positive overall prognosis.

Also thank you for the biology lesson- I was very confused about human gestation, all confusion has now lifted with the help of google and Wikipedia and the fine posters here.
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Old 07-05-2014, 05:38 PM
 
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Love the tongue-in-cheek post.

Thank goodness you had the smarts to move out. You moved in waaaaay too soon.

Bet you dont do that again!
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Old 07-05-2014, 05:44 PM
 
Location: Middle America
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I feel like being on your own will be a great thing. It will give you some helpful perspective and you'll have some time to get to know yourself as a person on your own and not as part of a couple. You're definitely not crazy to have exited the impulsive moving-in-with-new-guy situation. His behavior was alarming.
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Old 07-05-2014, 06:36 PM
 
Location: Up above the world so high!
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Thank you for all of those who responded, blunt or otherwise
I am now on my own 100% and have been for the past month. This has been very difficult for me, but as other posters stated I did need to be on my own- I have some work to do.

Since the diagnosis of crazy from this forum I have now gotten me some therapy too. My therapist believes that I am a harmless crazy so I'm allowed to roam the streets, and have a positive overall prognosis.

Also thank you for the biology lesson- I was very confused about human gestation, all confusion has now lifted with the help of google and Wikipedia and the fine posters here.
You are finally on the right track - good for you
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Old 07-05-2014, 06:43 PM
 
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Thank you for all of those who responded, blunt or otherwise
I am now on my own 100% and have been for the past month. This has been very difficult for me, but as other posters stated I did need to be on my own- I have some work to do.

Since the diagnosis of crazy from this forum I have now gotten me some therapy too. My therapist believes that I am a harmless crazy so I'm allowed to roam the streets, and have a positive overall prognosis.

Also thank you for the biology lesson- I was very confused about human gestation, all confusion has now lifted with the help of google and Wikipedia and the fine posters here.
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I feel like being on your own will be a great thing. It will give you some helpful perspective and you'll have some time to get to know yourself as a person on your own and not as part of a couple. You're definitely not crazy to have exited the impulsive moving-in-with-new-guy situation. His behavior was alarming.
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You are finally on the right track - good for you
yep, this time alone will be good for you, if you use it wisely. start by finding out just who you are as a person. find out what makes you tick, what interests you, and what you are good at. as you find these things out, develop them and become a well rounded person(not like john candy well rounded though). then go back into the world and see it in a different light.
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Old 07-06-2014, 12:22 AM
 
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Thank you all for the support and well wishes
It is uplifting to say the least.

rbohm- Here I thought single life meant I could be as "well rounded" as I could possibly get. Sigh, puts down spoon. Now I have to break up with Ben and Jerry too- a girl can't keep her boys on the side... What a cruel, cruel world this is.
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