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Do you always assume that it's a sign of being too dependent?
Sometimes people can check with parents who have more experience or better knowledge on a topic, but too many people seem to think that if you have to check with your parents, you're not independent enough.
Do you always assume that it's a sign of being too dependent?
Sometimes people can check with parents who have more experience or better knowledge on a topic, but too many people seem to think that if you have to check with your parents, you're not independent enough.
Whether or not this is an issue depends on the persons age and circumstances.
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Originally Posted by fpsbob
Do you always assume that it's a sign of being too dependent?
Sometimes people can check with parents who have more experience or better knowledge on a topic, but too many people seem to think that if you have to check with your parents, you're not independent enough.
Someone needs to cut the damn cord. Seeking advice from mom or dad once in a while, cool. Consulting them every damn time. Hell naw!
I never consult my parents for anything so I most probably would be annoyed if my SO consult his. Both my husband's parents are deceased but I am pretty sure he is not the type to consult his parents for anything, either.
I know exactly when to enlist the expertise of my mom or dad, and when I don't need to.
My dad is a master carpenter with 40 years experience as a builder...anything relating to building or home repair projects, hell yes, I'll seek his guidance and experience, for instance. I'd be an idiot not to tap into that resource, when I have little practical experience, myself, and my husband has minimal interest in these sorts of projects.
Anybody who thinks that welcoming the expertise of those around you and using it as a valuable resource is some kind of apron string issue probably has issues of his or her own.
I know exactly when to enlist the expertise of my mom or dad, and when I don't need to.
My dad is a master carpenter with 40 years experience as a builder...anything relating to building or home repair projects, hell yes, I'll seek his guidance and experience, for instance. I'd be an idiot not to tap into that resource, when I have little practical experience, myself, and my husband has minimal interest in these sorts of projects.
Anybody who thinks that welcoming the expertise of those around you and using it as a valuable resource is some kind of apron string issue probably has issues of his or her own.
Plus, it flatters him to be asked to give input, and brightens his day. Win-win.
Both my spouse and I are very family-oriented, and are very close to our parents, emotionally (even though we live far away from our respective parents). So neither of us thinks it's weird to value their expertise or advice from time to time. Needless to say, we go about our day to day life making choices and decisions on our own, and very much live our own lives, but for those things in life where you want some other opinions or advice, yep, we'll absolutely run certain things by our parents and consider their advice. They're smart, good people with loads of applicable experience, or we wouldn't be asking, so why not?
Do you always assume that it's a sign of being too dependent?
Sometimes people can check with parents who have more experience or better knowledge on a topic, but too many people seem to think that if you have to check with your parents, you're not independent enough.
It is all about frequency. Some people are much much closer to their parents than other people. It isn't black and white answer. It is mostly grey area.
I know exactly when to enlist the expertise of my mom or dad, and when I don't need to.
My dad is a master carpenter with 40 years experience as a builder...anything relating to building or home repair projects, hell yes, I'll seek his guidance and experience, for instance. I'd be an idiot not to tap into that resource, when I have little practical experience, myself, and my husband has minimal interest in these sorts of projects.
Anybody who thinks that welcoming the expertise of those around you and using it as a valuable resource is some kind of apron string issue probably has issues of his or her own.
You said it right there. The old man has got the jack....
He can buy a new truck and pay cash for it and think nothing.
He can buy a house and pay cash for it.
I trust his judgment when I need it.
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