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Have any of you ever been and are you currently in a relationship with a man that doesn't conform to a strict idea of 'masculinity'?
Examples include wearing clothing, living in a way, etc. that according to your culture is considered "feminine" such as wearing dresses and make-up or staying at home being domestic taking care of the children while some one else works?~
How does this make you feel, what are the 'positive things' you can share about, and what, if any, are some challenges or things you are still taking time to 'get used to'?
This doesn't just apply to heterosexual relationships, but every one is encouraged to share their views and experiences on this topic.~
Have any of you ever been and are you currently in a relationship with a man that doesn't conform to a strict idea of 'masculinity'?
Examples include wearing clothing, living in a way, etc. that according to your culture is considered "feminine" such as wearing dresses and make-up or staying at home being domestic taking care of the children while some one else works?~
How does this make you feel, what are the 'positive things' you can share about, and what, if any, are some challenges or things you are still taking time to 'get used to'?
This doesn't just apply to heterosexual relationships, but every one is encouraged to share their views and experiences on this topic.~
I'd have been dumped in a heartbeat by just about all of my girlfriends if I acted feminine.
I've had a couple of female bosses that worked while their husbands stayed home with the children. They're weren't feminine in any way that's just the way things worked out as the females had a more successful career.
Other than goths, I don't know any straight guys that wear dresses just because. There were guys that wore mens make-up when then would go out to the clubs in Scottsdale when I lived in Arizona. But again they weren't feminine it was just part of their "going out to the club" routine.
Staying home with the kids: good
Wearing dresses: not in my box
I have found, for me, relationships don't work if I am more (professionally) accomplished or make significantly more money than he does. It seems to be problematic on a lot of levels.
I did go out with a guy who later admitted he wanted a sugar mama and he believed in polyamory. So you know what that means. He wanted cake, diamonds and the house...by finding a few different ladies to take care of each of his physical, emotional, and financial needs.
There is some difference between a man having a clothing fetish or something, vs a man contributing to childcare or home chores.
Since when is taking care of your kids being feminine anyway?
I thought in this day and age, society was moving away from shaming men into having to bottle up their feelings and desires, and acting like a stereotypical "manly" man.
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Originally Posted by burgler09
I'd have been dumped in a heartbeat by just about all of my girlfriends if I acted feminine.
In a second. I've dated many bi women, and kinksters, but when they want to date a man, they want to date a man.
I have some female friends that like more androgynous or gender fluid males, but they're a small minority, and they tend to, and I'm sorry to say this, have issues with men... they're straight, but there were issues in their past... understandable ones. They're often dommes too.
Examples include wearing clothing, living in a way, etc. that according to your culture is considered "feminine" such as wearing dresses and make-up or staying at home being domestic taking care of the children while some one else works?~
Wearing dresses and makeup would not fly with me.
Taking care of your children is not being female... it is being a responsible parent.
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