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Thank you for your understanding. That is sweet. Do you not mind your women to be unshaven? My husband is understanding too, but I know what he prefers and that does obligate me to an extent. It's important to me that he finds me attractive, and I take his desires and preferences into consideration.
Taking care of kids shouldn't be gender specific. As for dresses, I once met a rock musician who wore a dress on Saturday Night Live. I should have asked him but it was when he had a drug problem. I don't know any other guys who wore dresses though have dated men who wore makeup.
Have any of you ever been and are you currently in a relationship with a man that doesn't conform to a strict idea of 'masculinity'?
Examples include wearing clothing, living in a way, etc. that according to your culture is considered "feminine" such as wearing dresses and make-up or staying at home being domestic taking care of the children while some one else works?~
How does this make you feel, what are the 'positive things' you can share about, and what, if any, are some challenges or things you are still taking time to 'get used to'?
This doesn't just apply to heterosexual relationships, but every one is encouraged to share their views and experiences on this topic.~
My recent ex was a lot like that. Doesn't adhere to strict masculinity.
He was into art, quiet, shy, nerdy (dork), non confrontational, can be at times more chicken**** than me.
I dug the part where he was a soft kind of guy but at times I wish he had this thing called intuition and not having to have instructions for the little things. Geezes was he Mr. Direction this Direction that. Got kinda annoying.. thinking about it already bugs me. Meh!
None of this really matters because at the end of the day it comes down to what you can get.. not what you want. Sure, a woman might prefer a man over 6'0" with a deep voice, nice car and big hands and blah, blah, blah.. but if none of the men with those traits are interested in her then she is SOL. So then what? Then she has to either take what she can get or stay by herself. Same goes for men. You want a supermodel.. but if she doesn't want you then you're SOL.
This is why I never get stressed over discussions like this and when women try to tell me how a man should act or be I just shrug because I know her opinion doesn't really matter unless she can attract such a man which in most cases she can't.
So when a woman posts, "I don't want a guy who cross dresses, or acts "feminine", that is considered ok
but when a man posts, "I don't want a girl who doesn't shave, or acts "masucline" that is considered not ok right?
The latter is OK as well because it's simply the expression of a preference. Preferences are neither good nor bad.
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