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Pickings are slim already. Almost every attractive woman my age is married or in a serious relationship. And there are far fewer opportunities to meet women in the first place.
Oh but in that other thread, so many people are saying that yes, 28 is the perfect time to start dating, that earlier doesn't make sense.
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Oh but in that other thread, so many people are saying that yes, 28 is the perfect time to start dating, that earlier doesn't make sense.
What to do, what to do.
No one seriously thinks waiting to 28 to date makes sense. They're just being polite. People need to learn to socialize when young... and dating is part of socializing.
Physical attraction is a prerequisite for overall attraction. It's not like I can magically "lower my expectations." Either a woman is sexually attractive to me or she is not. About 20-30% of women are sexually attractive to me, so that leaves a reasonable number. Problem is that they're almost all taken.
Look for other qualities to determine attraction. Do you like smart women? Fun, bubbly women? Down-to-earth women? Women who share some of your interests and can carry on a good conversation? Those kinds of things affect attraction as well.
And if you live in the middle of nowhere, this whole thread is pointless, until you address that problem. It sounds like you have no dating field at all.
I'm 25, graduated from college and live in the middle of nowhere.
That's a big problem then. I can't say a big city would help, either. If you're into the bar/club scene, then maybe. If you don't have a big social circle, then you're likely SOL. I'm trying to remember the last time I saw a mass of "20-something" available women in public that weren't there only because of their job and I'm drawing a blank.
Granted, I work behind barbed wire fences at chemical plants, so that ain't exactly prime social ground, either. A few weeks ago, I made use of my museum membership just to do so before it expires. Anyway, you know, all women like museums and they tout that on their OLD profiles, right? Nope. The only available women were really underage. As in on a school field trip underage. I guess I could have hit on some chaperon moms for kicks.
So, your likely age bracket's addiction to quick and easy entertainment at the push of a touch screen button is going to do anything but help you. If there is no chance for duck face selfies with a brewskie in hand, it's going to be like pulling teeth for you.
I've never in my life seen a group of male friends in their 20's who were all successful(by my definition) with females. It's usually one or two guys who do extremely well, two or three who do "ok" and one guy who gets next to nothing.
I've never in my life seen a group of male friends in their 20's who were all successful(by my definition) with females. It's usually one or two guys who do extremely well, two or three who do "ok" and one guy who gets next to nothing.
I don't know your definition, but all of the guys in my close circle of friends managed to find a hot wife by age 35. Some dated more than others, but I attribute that more to personal preference more than any kind of success metric.
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I guess I could have hit on some chaperon moms for kicks.
