Exes/Old Friends Confessing their feelings for you AFTER you are taken? (wife, marriage)
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OK so here is an interesting story. I'm almost 26, been graduated from university for about 4 years now. One of my old college friends (he's in his 30s, he was getting a Masters, & is now in his Doctorate) liked me back in the day. We liked each other really,
We used to hang out every now & then, he even introduced me to his sister & invited me for family dinner. I always got the feeling that he liked me, but he never asked me out...
Now, 4 years later,we are BOTH married & he decides to pour his heart out to me in along FB message, expressing his feelings & 'cowardliness', his words--not mine. Every now & then he will FB message me asking how I'm doing, I felt bad, but I wrote to him & told him he needed to grow with the woman he was with & love her very much.
I have a feeling he is not happy with his marriage & he is still a newlywed...
have any of you ladies/gents witnessed this? An old friend confessing their feelings AFTER you were taken?
Not necessarily taken, but after I was over them, or when I moved away.
When I had moved out of my home state for a few years, I had quite a few guys tell me how they felt AFTER the fact, and when they were in a relationship. I never actually believed the ones who were in a relationship because I felt they were trying to get me to be the "side piece."
Some people just don't realize what they have until it's gone. I am kind of in a situation where I liked an old friend of mine, but I never told him how I REALLY felt, even though all the signs were there, but the fact that we were so far away is what eventually killed it. I live with the regret every day, and I am still not over it.
I am not going to bother him with it now since it has been so long. I try not to think about it, because it really makes me sad ehhh enough of that, but I can understand your irritation.
I had an ex call me a few months after I got married and suggest my wife and I divorce so she and I could get back together. As if... I'd rather die and be reincarnated into a square of toilet paper in my next life than ever see that psycho b again, much less ever be her partner again.
It's not real, it's just something that happens when change happens and panic sets in for some reason. People always look at their past decisions and start second guessing.
I had an ex contact me a few years after we split. I had broken up with her because I felt taken for granted. When she contacted me, it was shortly after she broke up with someone else. She didn't confess any feelings for me, but she did seem to be interested in learning whether I was single or not. I made it clear though that I'd moved on.
Yes, it happened to me once. I was engaged and 1 week before my wedding. I figured he was too scared to tell me when I was single, and felt like it was safer to tell me once I was taken. That way when I rejected him, he could rest easy that it was because I was taken.
OK so here is an interesting story. I'm almost 26, been graduated from university for about 4 years now. One of my old college friends (he's in his 30s, he was getting a Masters, & is now in his Doctorate) liked me back in the day. We liked each other really,
We used to hang out every now & then, he even introduced me to his sister & invited me for family dinner. I always got the feeling that he liked me, but he never asked me out...
Now, 4 years later,we are BOTH married & he decides to pour his heart out to me in along FB message, expressing his feelings & 'cowardliness', his words--not mine. Every now & then he will FB message me asking how I'm doing, I felt bad, but I wrote to him & told him he needed to grow with the woman he was with & love her very much.
I have a feeling he is not happy with his marriage & he is still a newlywed...
have any of you ladies/gents witnessed this? An old friend confessing their feelings AFTER you were taken?
Yeah, no question he is unhappy in his life and marriage. You were wise to send him back to his wife. To do otherwise would not end well for either of you. If you hear from him about this again I would suggest you encourage him to get some counseling to aid him in figuring out his life.
You have to wonder at the motivations of someone who would only profess their feelings under the "cover" of being taken.
"oh yeah, when you were single I said nothing..... but now that you are taken (I'm taken) 'here's my heart'"
Not.
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Yes - a few times. But they weren't taken - only I was taken. I think it would kind of upset me if they did it while they were taken.
When it happened to me, he wasn't taken but I was. It upset me that he didn't say anything before when I wasn't taken.
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I'd rather die and be reincarnated into a square of toilet paper in my next life than ever see that psycho b again, much less ever be her partner again.
