How to maintain a long distance relationship (wife, guys, husband)

[Kch84]

How do you guys do it? I've dated odd schedules and it's been hard, but I had more 9-6 then happy hour and I'm free. Right now it's 9 to when I get out, take care of my responsibilities then. But the guy I'm seeing has a crappy schedule, it's hard to say hi on the phone, much less see. How do you guys make it work? What I dealt with a while ago is not same,

[Albedo]

My wife and I try to skype and communicate everyday.I let her know when I'm leaving for work,arriving at destinations and etc.All and all communication is key because we don't have the luxury of body language.Oh.and being creative.

[Kch84]

I never used skype for some odd reason, it's usually txt as I'm at work, or running doing my errands , when he's out of town he's mostly in an airplane

[RogersParkGuy]

Originally Posted by Kch84

How do you guys do it? I've dated odd schedules and it's been hard, but I had more 9-6 then happy hour and I'm free. Right now it's 9 to when I get out, take care of my responsibilities then. But the guy I'm seeing has a crappy schedule, it's hard to say hi on the phone, much less see. How do you guys make it work? What I dealt with a while ago is not same,

I had a LDR that lasted 4 years. Here is how you make it work:

1) Forget about monogamy. That never works in LDRs. Either agree to have an open relationship, or adopt a "don't ask, don't tell policy."

2) Set a time limit. LDRs cannot work on a permanent basis. They either need to end, or stop being LDRs.

[Kch84]

Originally Posted by RogersParkGuy

I had a LDR that lasted 4 years. Here is how you make it work:

1) Forget about monogamy. That never works in LDRs. Either agree to have an open relationship, or adopt a "don't ask, don't tell policy."

2) Set a time limit. LDRs cannot work on a permanentNothing I can do babe. Just a passenger basis. They either need to end, or stop being LDRs.

To somewhat we agree,; him more asking then I . He's more concerned if I like him, me if it's actually readable

[Adhom]

Most of the time LDR run into trouble because the two people don't have their hearts in the same place.

[rego00123]

The same way you maintain a normal one.
There has to be SOME contact and a goal to work towards.

Without those even a "normal" relationship beings to crack.

[oh-eve]

Originally Posted by Kch84

How do you guys do it? I've dated odd schedules and it's been hard, but I had more 9-6 then happy hour and I'm free. Right now it's 9 to when I get out, take care of my responsibilities then. But the guy I'm seeing has a crappy schedule, it's hard to say hi on the phone, much less see. How do you guys make it work? What I dealt with a while ago is not same,

Made it work with texting, nice emails (much more intimate as texting) and/or skype.

[Albedo]

You have to really trust your SO because insecurity will knock at the door.

[Dewdroplet76]

It's hard - but if you are with the right person - it's not as hard. We talked on the phone a lot. We saw each other as often as our schedules would allow. When we saw each other - we usually had a special night where we would go out for a nice dinner or do something else nice. I've had 3 major relationships and all of them were long distance at some point in time. With all three people - we planned to eventually end up in the same place. And of the three of them - it was easiest with my husband because he was the right person for me.