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Never been that motivated to marry. I liked the idea in the abstract growing up, but never really had it on my list of goals.
I was an only child who grew up in a fairly isolated area. I'm used to doing my own thing, even if I'm a pretty sociable adult.
I'm surrounded by people in happy marriages, but I'm also surrounded by just as many people in miserable marriages. I'm not going to settle for something less than spectacular when I'm in a pretty good situation. I'm more interested in a life well-lived than checking off boxes on a to-do list.
I'm now 31 going on 32 and almost 2 years single. I now have some savings and am buying a house. Quite frankly, I don't feel like I need to be married right now and have become more comfortable with myself. Sometimes I miss the relationship moments and I particularly miss having someone who's reliable & trustworthy that I can count on. Other than that, things are going okay and I really value my independence now.
I hate getting the "why aren't you married" question. I usually get it from relatives and I take offense when they ask it.
I agree that there is a stigma attached to being never-married. My suspicion is that it comes from people who realize that they made mistakes and it makes them feel insecure to be around people who did not make them.
I think it's very important to be comfortable with oneself before ever considering marriage. Too many people buy into the "you complete me" nonsense and feel like there's something missing if they're not married. It's no wonder so many people end one marriage and then get right back into another one. They just can't get used to the idea of being alone. As for the stigma to being a never-married, I'm not sure it has to do with insecurity about their mistakes. I think people just get off on judging others. People with kids judge those who don't want kids. People who are in relationships judge those who are single. And people who are married judge those who have never been. It's all about feeling good about yourself. Sadly, some people can't do that without criticizing those who made different choices.
I would love to find a good girl to marry. They'd have to share the same faith and savior in Jesus Christ, be attractive physically/emotionally. Other than that they have to love and desire to be with me. From my end, I feel I need to be able to be a provider and a protector for her. I've struggled with this last bit in this economy. Making $12 an hour is barely supporting me let alone a family.
I've been doing the school thing for a majority of my twenties into my early thirties (not continuous.. 33 years old at this time).
Sadly I feel as if I'm missing (missed?) the window however. A very lonely existence. trying not to lose hope in it...
I would love to find a good girl to marry. They'd have to share the same faith and savior in Jesus Christ, be attractive physically/emotionally. Other than that they have to love and desire to be with me. From my end, I feel I need to be able to be a provider and a protector for her. I've struggled with this last bit in this economy. Making $12 an hour is barely supporting me let alone a family.
I've been doing the school thing for a majority of my twenties into my early thirties (not continuous.. 33 years old at this time).
Sadly I feel as if I'm missing (missed?) the window however. A very lonely existence. trying not to lose hope in it...
What do you plan to do to earn more? Lol. So you have been in school for those years making just $12 an hour? Dude, a high school dropout makes more than that. Infact, I know a few college dropout who make twice as much as you make. They also have their own businesses. '
The people who are in 20s and early 30s are in school that I know are in Med school. Are you in Med school?
I have never been and never plan to marry. Simply does not interest me and I'm worried that even if I did marry at this late stage, I would feel trapped and start acting out and that would'nt be nice for anyone. I know that a lot of people believe that it's "unthinkable" to be unmarried and have children but to them I say "tough *******".
Marriage is a man-made law and I'm not particularly religious anyway so I'll give it a miss thanks.
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