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Most people here won't admit it, but there is such a thing as being "too broke to date", even for a woman. If someone is barely scraping by just to feed themselves and/or borrowing money to make ends meet, dating should not be on their list of priorities. But even in that dire circumstance people do find a love.
Exactly, it should never be a top priority. She should be thinking about other things. Her situation is too severe to be doing optional activities. What are you thinking about, anyway OP, a date a McDonald's. That already sounds like a rural date in the making. Seriously, your BF is most likely going to want to go to a place you don't have money for, and I don't think you want to be seen as a girl who is mooching off him, either.
I am very surprised you haven't met some one while your at work.
But the not knowing the clientele it may not be appropriate .
You could spend time jogging in the park and meting people there casually and developing friendships other then work.
Seeing some one doing something healthy for them selves is very attractive even if they are not rich it is important to value your self well .
While dating I have never asked why the girl made , Fact is the girl I married lived with her parents in a trailer, and didn't have a job for 2 years after we were married. And she had collage, I did not. I supported us most of the time.
If I had to do it again I'd rather marry a poor girl as I did before. Smarter in some ways.
I am very surprised you haven't met some one while your at work.
But the not knowing the clientele it may not be appropriate .
You could spend time jogging in the park and meting people there casually and developing friendships other then work.
Seeing some one doing something healthy for them selves is very attractive even if they are not rich it is important to value your self well .
While dating I have never asked why the girl made , Fact is the girl I married lived with her parents in a trailer, and didn't have a job for 2 years after we were married. And she had collage, I did not. I supported us most of the time.
If I had to do it again I'd rather marry a poor girl as I did before. Smarter in some ways.
Right, but you're talking about CA, where a trailer can be $150,000 at times. That's not quite poor, and she had college, so she obviously had bigger ambitions. Correct me if I'm wrong, but I don't think this girl has any set ambitions to improve herself from where she is right now.
OP, I'm sure you must have a phone but just not a smart phone. Don't worry about that for right now, it will come in time. However, I do have a spare 32' Tv that you are welcome to have.
OP, I'm sure you must have a phone but just not a smart phone. Don't worry about that for right now, it will come in time. However, I do have a spare 32' Tv that you are welcome to have.
^ A warm-hearted individual. Get in contact with him! This could help you even get back on track, you know? Something to keep yourself from getting way too stressed out. This forum is getting generous, and this post definitely deserves a positive rating.
As a matter of fact it was a camping trailer parked by permission in the back yard of a church they took care of in trade.
Our ambitions were ministry which we had already done as a part of a group that traveled the country.
As a matter of fact it was a camping trailer parked by permission in the back yard of a church they took care of in trade.
Our ambitions were ministry which we had already done as a part of a group that traveled the country.
There you go. she still had set ambitions and goals.
I agree that you need a goal or a plan for a better financial situation.
In the meantime, I think you should date. Personally, I think you should date a lot. You might meet people who inspire you, or work in a place or field that you hadn't thought of considering. You might meet someone who becomes a good friend even if it doesn't work on a romantic level.
And, while I think you should upfront about not bring able to afford to go to fancy places or money being a little tight, I don't think you should discuss how tight money actually is or volunteer that it is a chronic problem when you are still in the talking stages before actually meeting and going on a date.
And, let the person you are dating buy dinner or a movie. Odds are, this is the norm for them on a date anyway. It's part of dating. No need to feel guilty.
But, don't expect it and go someplace you can't afford if he had not said he's paying. Meet in a park to talk, a cup of coffee, or a slice of pizza if he hasn't offered to pay and that's all you can afford at the moment.
I agree that you need a goal or a plan for a better financial situation.
In the meantime, I think you should date. Personally, I think you should date a lot. You might meet people who inspire you, or work in a place or field that you hadn't thought of considering. You might meet someone who becomes a good friend even if it doesn't work on a romantic level.
And, while I think you should upfront about not bring able to afford to go to fancy places or money being a little tight, I don't think you should discuss how tight money actually is or volunteer that it is a chronic problem when you are still in the talking stages before actually meeting and going on a date.
And, let the person you are dating buy dinner or a movie. Odds are, this is the norm for them on a date anyway. It's part of dating. No need to feel guilty.
But, don't expect it and go someplace you can't afford if he had not said he's paying. Meet in a park to talk, a cup of coffee, or a slice of pizza if he hasn't offered to pay and that's all you can afford at the moment.
I don't see how being by some more successful person could make you better. If anything, that would probably put her even more on edge, and tensed up about her situation. She doesn't need to be dating anyone in her situation right now, and mooching off of other men. She can have friends and supporters, but she doesn't need to be going on dates. Plus, remember that there's also an emotional piece to this, and I don't think she needs more of that stress added on to her current one.
Hard to believe even a poor woman would have this much trouble finding a partner. Now if you're a guy, being poor is NOT an option unless you are the "starving musician, actor, artist" type. But an average dude is SOL.
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