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So I've got a several month "flirtation" going on with a local restaurant owner. I am an unintentional flirt (and super friendly) and assume other chatty people are the same, so I am terrible at reading "flirting."
Anyway, the restaurant had a pre-opening dinner a couple months ago, and I attended with friends. They had been operating doing catering and occasional events out of a commercial kitchen, but I hadn't yet tried the food.
So I went to the dinner with some friends, and the service was uber-attentive. We ended up getting free appetizers, which I of course assumed were either courtesy for either "free stuff for friendly people" or the "brown people discount" (where if you go somewhere where there aren't many other people of color, fellow "brown people" are extra nice to you!).
And after we finished our food, half of the staff came over to chat with us, and we all had a good convo. (Again, we chalk this up to normal chatterbox behavior).
A few weeks ago, their permanent restaurant finally opened, I went for my b-day gathering, and of course saw my old buddy, the owner. We got more free appetizers and I get a glass of wine to celebrate my b-day! Obviously, this was birthday free stuff.
And today I was in the neighborhood at lunch time, and stopped in for a sandwich! This time he offered up a glass of wine, and we chatted at the bar, asking about my b-day weekend and sister. He hinted about his fave happy hour spots, and I totally missed the subtle ask about meeting him for happy hour. Then I had to go back to work of course, so not "clarifying" for me.
Oh well, I guess that means I'll figure out if he was friendly or flirting next time I go there. (The food is yummy!)
Unless it's blatant, I won't pick up on flirting. And unless they ask me out, I don't count it for anything.
But sometimes flirting is just playful banter. It shows attraction, but it doesn't have to mean they want to date or sleep with you. I just say that as some think flirting is always a prelude to other acts.
So I've got a several month "flirtation" going on with a local restaurant owner. I am an unintentional flirt (and super friendly) and assume other chatty people are the same, so I am terrible at reading "flirting."
Anyway, the restaurant had a pre-opening dinner a couple months ago, and I attended with friends. They had been operating doing catering and occasional events out of a commercial kitchen, but I hadn't yet tried the food.
So I went to the dinner with some friends, and the service was uber-attentive. We ended up getting free appetizers, which I of course assumed were either courtesy for either "free stuff for friendly people" or the "brown people discount" (where if you go somewhere where there aren't many other people of color, fellow "brown people" are extra nice to you!).
And after we finished our food, half of the staff came over to chat with us, and we all had a good convo. (Again, we chalk this up to normal chatterbox behavior).
A few weeks ago, their permanent restaurant finally opened, I went for my b-day gathering, and of course saw my old buddy, the owner. We got more free appetizers and I get a glass of wine to celebrate my b-day! Obviously, this was birthday free stuff.
And today I was in the neighborhood at lunch time, and stopped in for a sandwich! This time he offered up a glass of wine, and we chatted at the bar, asking about my b-day weekend and sister. He hinted about his fave happy hour spots, and I totally missed the subtle ask about meeting him for happy hour. Then I had to go back to work of course, so not "clarifying" for me.
Oh well, I guess that means I'll figure out if he was friendly or flirting next time I go there. (The food is yummy!)
Who else gets confused?
You need to hurry up and go out with this guy already for happy hour before he gives away "all" his profits in free appetizers and wine.....
i am a big time flirt, sometimes i even flirt with guys to tease them. most people understand flirting, and usually pick up on it, though sometimes they dont realize it. to me it sounds like he was not just flirting with you, is was trying to ask you out, but he wanted it to come from you so that he could legitimately accept a date with you. since he owns the place, he may have rules against dating the customers, and if he asks you out, it would look like he was being a hypocrite.
so next time you go into the place, and he starts in with you, look him square in the eye, assuming you want to, and ask him if he wants to have a drink with you that evening.
I get confused. I never know the difference and I suspect most single people here (retards lol) won't either.
At least you get more appetizers. And happy birthday!
Thanks for the b-day wishes! I think in this case it is a no lose situation. Either free food or a happy hour.
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Originally Posted by CSD610
You need to hurry up and go out with this guy already for happy hour before he gives away "all" his profits in free appetizers and wine.....
Hehehe.
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Originally Posted by rbohm
i am a big time flirt, sometimes i even flirt with guys to tease them. most people understand flirting, and usually pick up on it, though sometimes they dont realize it. to me it sounds like he was not just flirting with you, is was trying to ask you out, but he wanted it to come from you so that he could legitimately accept a date with you. since he owns the place, he may have rules against dating the customers, and if he asks you out, it would look like he was being a hypocrite.
so next time you go into the place, and he starts in with you, look him square in the eye, assuming you want to, and ask him if he wants to have a drink with you that evening.
That's a potential scenario too. I think one of his employees was getting a little suspicious. . Guess I've got to pick a time and not bring loads of friends. He has dimples and (obviously) likes to cook.
To me, flirting is behavior that would feel wrong if directed at someone of the same sex as you(for straight people). You can be friendly with both sexes.
I simply assume everyone wants me and ask them out if I feel like it.
It is the best thing to do that.
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. Guess I've got to pick a time and not bring loads of friends. He has dimples and (obviously) likes to cook.
