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I thought I'd post an update. My last 2 attempts to ask him to happy hour were foiled. Once he wasn't working. The second one was derailed by his visiting friends who stopped by and a former colleague who stopped by.*
*This place has an open floor plan so you can hear conversations that are nearby without trying.
We started to chat a bit, and visitor one stopped by (some out of towner friend). He was sitting behind me and did check in once and a while, grabbing my arm and pouring me a (free) glass of wine.
While he was chatting with the out of towners the ex coworker popped up and he chatted with them. Then it was time for me to go, so I waved gave me a goodbye hug, but no opportune time to setup drinks!
So I'll have to stop by later this week to end the endless flirting confusion!
On the up note, I think officially the other people work there have decided to give me free stuff. When he wasn't around I got a free lemonade and scone!
It is like a magical location. There is another nearby restaurant that gives me free apps and dessert every other visit.
I usually don't assume much from our interaction- even if they're giving something for free or doing a kind gesture (maybe they are just warm-hearted folks).
I usually err on the side of not reading into flirting signs too much.
I think people read into things too much, and then assume something is there when it's not.
Usually, with guys, if they want something from you like a date or casual get together, they ask and they make it clear. There's no room for needing to distinguish if he was flirting with me or being friendly. If he was, he'd make it very direct like "I'd like to get to know you" or "We seem to have a lot in common" "You seem like a sweet gal. Can we meet for coffee sometime? Or dinner?" They make it very direct, very clear.
Then again, I tend to be really oblivious when it comes to men. So my advice: "Always assume nothing, unless otherwise stated so. Even then, no guarantees." People can B.S. a lot to themselves or to you too you know? Being a friendly and gregarious person, it's nice to feel connected to people without having the lines blurred by over-thinking innocent gestures or remarks.
Sorry, but men rarely want to be "just friends". At least the men I know. So if you think a man might be flirting with you, he probably is and he probably wants to get in your pants sometime.
Women are a lot different. It's hard to tell often whether a woman is flirting with you or just having a friendly conversation.
I'd like to know this as well.. I have a hard time distinguishing politeness/kindness with flirting.
I had just met a man for the first time (to study) and we were taking a walk at a local festival when I pointed out my curiosity in champagne and he offered to buy a glass to share (again, just met..barely knew him).
No idea if he was just polite and wanted me to try / didn't want to spend the money on 2 glasses haha... or if he wanted something from me =/
But that purpose can be simply ego-gratification, if they already have an SO. The purpose isn't always to get an SO in the first place, or to get a date.
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