Were the crushes/bf's/gf's you had as an 18 yr old more similar or different than the traits that attract you today? (date, Asian)

[Auraliea]

Hasn't really changed.

Not really.

[believe007]

Still the same...
I have always been attracted to blondes,
but I've met a few brunettes that have that same fun, laid back, easygoing vibe......
They've gotta be interesting, though-
Can't do just good looks, lol

[NVplumber]

Oh my! I'm night and day from when I was 18. Sex a d sexual energy are not #1 on the list anymore. Oh, its there, but I want more of a....comprehensive...package, these days. Lol

[Memphis1979]

Originally Posted by MerriMAC

Are you still attracted to the same basic traits in a partner (features, personality, character) compared to when you were an 18 year old? Or have your tastes changed?

For myself, I have stayed consistent during my adult life in whom attracts me and interests me as a partner.

I fell back in love with a girl I knew and had a huge crush on back in high school. We were very much alike then, and we are even more alike now.

I settled for the woman everyone thought I should be with for a long time. My childrens mother is not a bad person, she is just extremely lazy and has never worked any job since she was in high school. We don't enjoy most things together, but we did have some amazing kids. She is a good mother, bad wife. Never married. There were reasons for that.

I'd marry Amy tomorrow. She has haunted my dreams for years and years. We fell out of touch with one another after I graduated (two years older then her) and I moved to Nashville then I joined the military. Situations brought us back together, and we knew from the moment we saw one another we were still desperately in love.

[jade408]

Originally Posted by srjth

No they are pretty much the same.

Yup same here. Every time I think I can branch out into a different personality type, it doesn't work!

[savoytruffle]

I like this question. It's original (as far as I can tell)

As far as appearance goes, nothing is really different other than that I used to hate tattoos and piercings on guys and now I don't mind them to a degree. (Traveling to Europe and seeing some Spaniards had something to do with that shift!)

With personality, it is not too different. I have been attracted to gregarious types, but prefer to settle with the more reserved guys. My first boyfriend was more outgoing than my current one. I can't really explain why I prefer the shyer types -- maybe it's my whole Steve McQueen-silent-guy fantasy

[495neighbor]

I used to like the bad boys. Not so much these days.

[MerriMAC]

Just like when I was 18, I'm still most attracted to the girl next door type of ladies.

[D217]

Much hotter now My 18 yr old self wouldn't believe it..

[orangeapple]

I didn't even know what I liked personality-wise. I thought I just wanted someone who had the same music taste & other common interests. I think I mainly fantasized about someone being enamored of ME. I didn't interact a lot with my peers as I was a quiet loner.

I vaguely knew I wanted someone with compatible beliefs & spirituality, but back then it was more of a technicality of sharing the same religion than really noting someone's spiritual maturity.

Besides that, it was all about whether I thought he was cute.

Looks-wise, I liked white guys with blond hair & light eyes & sometimes light brown hair & eyes. I still like that, especially the blonds, but my taste has broadened. I don't have one type I will stick to, as I know I can find many different looks & ethnic backgrounds attractive. I still like someone with a lean build, and I'ver never been hung up on height.

Nowadays, I have a much clearer idea of what qualities I want to see in someone, and since I know myself & my goals & values better, I also know what would be compatible with me. I'm also more focused on what I can give to someone else & how I can make them feel good & special instead of infatuated with the idea of someone being infatuated with ME.