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This is the girl I have been dating about 7 months I was unsure of for many reasons ranging from her cheating out of her last relationship to her namecalling and emotional blackmail during our fights.
She was out a bit drinking and she told me that she hates me because I ripped her heart, but she misses me and misses the man that lets things just happen naturally. She called me first and then said that she was outside.
It was a bit of a mess. Part of her cares about me, but she feels also that she doesn't want to marry anyone now because of the hurt I caused, much due to getting real personal when she starts fighting with me. She says I don't love her or care about her and that I'm judgmental to people.
I don't know what to think of this. She blocked me from everything but in a moment of weakness called me up. She cried for an hour, yelled at me a bit, hit me. Said I don't make her feel wanted or beautiful and that I put up a 'tough guy' front to the world but she likes the sweet man I am. She said my ex turned me into someone that is incapable of love. It does hurt to see her like that honestly but I don't think we are compatible unless things really change.
I let her sleep at my place and although she attempted to seduce me, I declined sex. She has mentioned other men interested in her, especially another at work who probably at this point hates me. He is a friend who has been waiting for two years for the demise of her last relationship with her ex and of course things with her and I. I'm not sure how interested she is or if she's using him and other men for jealousy, but I believe if I do attempt to work things out she needs to cease contact with them.
It's a bit difficult to keep my emotions in check. Part of me feels a loss when she ceases contact or short with me, but at the same time things have not always been peachy with us. She is clearly much more emotionally invested than I am.
Had she not tried to elicit me to feel something early on and give me my space, I would probably be more inclined. I'm not sure how to proceed here now and whether or not me answering that call and letting her sleep here was the best thing.
you broke up with her? I don't know the story, but regardless I'd stay broken up with her. Don't let your guard down.
The way she is acting is crazy, tell her to stay away until she gets her emotions in check, and who cares about the men that is interested in her? You're not, and that was her trying to make you feel jealous. Game playing 101, don't fall for that garbage.
You should not have let her in. Now it's like you've picked a scab, it bled all over the place, and you have to let it heal all over again.
She was drunk. She is your ex for a reason. Not much more to say!
That's true. I really hate when she drinks.
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you broke up with her? I don't know the story, but regardless I'd stay broken up with her. Don't let your guard down.
The way she is acting is crazy, tell her to stay away until she gets her emotions in check, and who cares about the men that is interested in her? You're not, and that was her trying to make you feel jealous. Game playing 101, don't fall for that garbage.
After a few fights she kept her distance and she told me for a while things weren't the same between us. I wasn't right, but she tends to make it appear as she is faultless when these situations occur.
I agree. I have been meaning to ask her why did she come over. Also the other men doesn't bother me too much...I just told her that women have options...like a 'break dick in case of emergency' lol.
She was also asking if someone else was sleeping in my bed, etc for some reason. I do want to fully ask her why she came over though.
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Who doesn't want a manipulative, verbally & physically abusive girlfriend who is an emotional train wreck?
If you don't want her, point her my way.
That made me laugh LOL. I may have to use that for my Facebook post but I will catch some heat.
I've told her that I've NEVER been with someone who has cussed at me and named called so much in arguments than her. I do say some personal and hurtful things out of retaliation which I know I'm not right in doing that, but she doesn't take fault for what she does.
She just chalks it up that she's a little 5'2'' girl and I'm a 6'1'' black guy with a deep voice so when I say/do something its more abusive.
After a few fights she kept her distance and she told me for a while things weren't the same between us. I wasn't right, but she tends to make it appear as she is faultless when these situations occur.
I agree. I have been meaning to ask her why did she come over. Also the other men doesn't bother me too much...I just told her that women have options...like a 'break dick in case of emergency' lol.
She was also asking if someone else was sleeping in my bed, etc for some reason. I do want to fully ask her why she came over though.
No, do not ask her. You KNOW why! She was just drunk and still pissed at you. Ego blow, you know??
You said yourself she was more into it than you were. If you start a conversation with her about this, you will bring all that pain back into your life.
You would know by now if you had wanted this to be a relationship, and its obvious it just doesnt work. Do yourself, and her, a favor, and cut off all contact. You need time to heal, and she needs time to get you out of her system. Her mentioning other guys to you is a ruse to get you to show some emotion, some jealousy. She seems a bit obsessed.
That made me laugh LOL. I may have to use that for my Facebook post but I will catch some heat.
My gift to you.
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I've told her that I've NEVER been with someone who has cussed at me and named called so much in arguments than her. I do say some personal and hurtful things out of retaliation which I know I'm not right in doing that, but she doesn't take fault for what she does.
She just chalks it up that she's a little 5'2'' girl and I'm a 6'1'' black guy with a deep voice so when I say/do something its more abusive.
ugh...FFS
Next time she shows up at your door, leave her out there like the feral animal she acts like.
If you keep putting food out, she'll keep coming back to mark her territory.
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