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Old 03-01-2011, 05:53 PM
 
Location: a primitive state
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I just realized today that two of my friends who are in their 40's are getting married soon. Another has a ring but has not set a date.

With all of the relationship despair coming from people who feel they are hopelessly single, this might come as good news.

All of these women are college educated. Two are divorced moms with school-age kids. The other has always been single. Two are business owners. One just finished an advanced degree. Only one has what you'd call conventional good looks though all of them are physically attractive. None of them are overweight - - or skinny. None of them wear much makeup or go overboard doing their hair or nails. They range in style from somewhat preppy, to sort of hip, to earthy granola. Two are moderately religious, one is not. All of them are emotionally strong and have their sh** together.

The fiancées are equally interesting. Two are professional men with good jobs and practical skills. Only one is divorced. One is a willing househusband who makes it possible for his woman to run a demanding business. (and no, the househusband is not engaged to the earthmother) None are crusty old fuddy-duddies with nothing going for them. In fact all three are good catches. None are alpha males. LOL

And to add to the good news for all of you lonely hearts, you might enjoy reading this if you haven't already:

snopes.com: Woman's Chance of Marriage Over 40

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Old 03-01-2011, 06:36 PM
 
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I just realized today that two of my friends who are in their 40's are getting married soon. Another has a ring but has not set a date.

With all of the relationship despair coming from people who feel they are hopelessly single, this might come as good news.

All of these women are college educated. Two are divorced moms with school-age kids. The other has always been single. Two are business owners. One just finished an advanced degree. Only one has what you'd call conventional good looks though all of them are physically attractive. None of them are overweight - - or skinny. None of them wear much makeup or go overboard doing their hair or nails. They range in style from somewhat preppy, to sort of hip, to earthy granola. Two are moderately religious, one is not. All of them are emotionally strong and have their sh** together.

The fiancées are equally interesting. Two are professional men with good jobs and practical skills. Only one is divorced. One is a willing househusband who makes it possible for his woman to run a demanding business. (and no, the househusband is not engaged to the earthmother) None are crusty old fuddy-duddies with nothing going for them. In fact all three are good catches. None are alpha males. LOL

And to add to the good news for all of you lonely hearts, you might enjoy reading this if you haven't already:

snopes.com: Woman's Chance of Marriage Over 40
If my wife and i did it (we were both in our 40's) then anyone can do it.
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Old 03-01-2011, 06:45 PM
 
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I dont understand the question..??

Nothing wrong with people getting married in their 40s. People just have to do things at their due time, and if they want to get married in their 40s then they are free to do so.
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Old 03-01-2011, 06:50 PM
 
Location: a primitive state
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There isn't a question. It was a statement. If you follow this forum for any amount of time you'll read so many posts about people who wonder if they'll ever find someone. And there are many who have stayed happily single and surprised themselves by ending up in a relationship. Single moms often believe no smart man would have them. There are also plenty of men who think they need to be alpha males to find girlfriends. And there are tons of people who believe anyone over 40 who is still single must be damaged goods.

For all of those posts, this is just a happy triple coincidence I've observed out here in the real world.
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Old 03-01-2011, 06:54 PM
 
Location: Oklahoma City, OK
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I just realized today that two of my friends who are in their 40's are getting married soon. Another has a ring but has not set a date.

With all of the relationship despair coming from people who feel they are hopelessly single, this might come as good news.

All of these women are college educated. Two are divorced moms with school-age kids. The other has always been single. Two are business owners. One just finished an advanced degree. Only one has what you'd call conventional good looks though all of them are physically attractive. None of them are overweight - - or skinny. None of them wear much makeup or go overboard doing their hair or nails. They range in style from somewhat preppy, to sort of hip, to earthy granola. Two are moderately religious, one is not. All of them are emotionally strong and have their sh** together.

The fiancées are equally interesting. Two are professional men with good jobs and practical skills. Only one is divorced. One is a willing househusband who makes it possible for his woman to run a demanding business. (and no, the househusband is not engaged to the earthmother) None are crusty old fuddy-duddies with nothing going for them. In fact all three are good catches. None are alpha males. LOL

And to add to the good news for all of you lonely hearts, you might enjoy reading this if you haven't already:

snopes.com: Woman's Chance of Marriage Over 40

I would have no issue being a house husband because I would either start my own business from home or be a day trader (like I'm trying now). It would be great for me! But I want a younger woman so I can have a family. I'm 42, by the way, with no kids and divorced. I don't have to be THE breadwinner, but certainly want to carry my weight financially.
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Old 03-02-2011, 08:14 AM
 
Location: colorado
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I just realized today that two of my friends who are in their 40's are getting married soon. Another has a ring but has not set a date.

With all of the relationship despair coming from people who feel they are hopelessly single, this might come as good news.

All of these women are college educated. Two are divorced moms with school-age kids. The other has always been single. Two are business owners. One just finished an advanced degree. Only one has what you'd call conventional good looks though all of them are physically attractive. None of them are overweight - - or skinny. None of them wear much makeup or go overboard doing their hair or nails. They range in style from somewhat preppy, to sort of hip, to earthy granola. Two are moderately religious, one is not. All of them are emotionally strong and have their sh** together.

The fiancées are equally interesting. Two are professional men with good jobs and practical skills. Only one is divorced. One is a willing househusband who makes it possible for his woman to run a demanding business. (and no, the househusband is not engaged to the earthmother) None are crusty old fuddy-duddies with nothing going for them. In fact all three are good catches. None are alpha males. LOL

And to add to the good news for all of you lonely hearts, you might enjoy reading this if you haven't already:

snopes.com: Woman's Chance of Marriage Over 40

40 is the new 20...
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Old 03-02-2011, 08:40 AM
 
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I would have no issue being a house husband because I would either start my own business from home or be a day trader (like I'm trying now). It would be great for me! But I want a younger woman so I can have a family. I'm 42, by the way, with no kids and divorced. I don't have to be THE breadwinner, but certainly want to carry my weight financially.
Take a note. That the men chosen were not flabby guys. Meaning they are eye candy for the women.
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Old 03-03-2011, 12:14 PM
 
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40 is the new 20...
40 is 40.
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Old 03-05-2011, 01:11 AM
 
Location: NYC
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Good news. Never lose faith. I've known people older than 40 who have happily married.
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Old 04-19-2011, 06:15 PM
 
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I think age has nothing to do when you will actually find your lifetime partner. Some people meet them at a young age, others in their thirties and forties or older .It is very comforting to know that people still have their hopes up no matter their age, but honestly, is not as easy to find people who are commitment-oriented and really want to have a family on their own the old fashioned way. I'm saying is hard but not impossible. You stop hoping the moment your life ends.
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